Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Alone in this world?

razorviolet
razorviolet

Hi All, during the last 10 months i have lost a whole load of people through my own, and some of their actions. I know many of these people have moved on with their lives and yet i am stuck, or feel stuck. I have basiccly no friends left and I do feel lonely alot of the time. I have aboyfriend and we live together and i have bacome very clingy towards him, which is causing fights as i never used to be this way, I was easy going and gave him his freedom to be a man. No i feel as if i am starting to smother him, and that is not fair. I have only one girl friend left and she has a connetion towards the people i have had to let go and i don't truly feel as comfortable with her anymore. I am longing for a friend, a true friend that understands me for me, and that is not as easy as it sounds. I am a metal head and don't really fit in 100% to 'normal girls', I always end up feeling like the odd one out. I would love a friend that i can share my love of music with, have that bond that i don't have with other people. Oddly i do not have metalhead friends...

dc87110
dc87110
In answer to your headline. Alone in this world? Yes I am Although I live with my daughter and her husband and one of my sons, I am still alone. They have there lives to live.

I have a few AA friends but no one to hang out with on regular basis. Part of that is my schedule hasn't been to regular and the main thing is that my friends in the past have let me down. Also I don't think I know how to be a friend amongst friends. I have aquaintences I guess.

any who I lost my train of thought because this little window they give us to write in allows me to drift of topic.
dc87110
dc87110
I hope you find what you are looking for. And for the record I am old school Classic Rock fan myself...
enigmaticloner
enigmaticloner
I can relate to how you're feeling as well. I used to have a pretty small group of friends but they're gone now, everyone seems to have just grown up and went their own ways. I just feel alone now because I've always been pretty shy and having to deal with social anxiety, I was never too great at making or keeping friends really. It's very lonely and depressing now more so than I used to feel. I don't have a girlfriend, I've been single for a while now, the women I've met more recently have not been interested apparently so that's out too.
gustokitty
gustokitty
I am actually alone. Not alone, except for bf, or alone except for kids, etc. I am alone. But I have some aquantances, no real friends anymore. It seems you better get out of the house and do something to make some aquaintances to start with., Maybe not worry so much about what music they like. as far as that, join an online fan club maybe of your fav metal groups, and perhaps there will be some events. But you don't want to smother your man. there are all kinds of things out there, a gym, meetups, church, idk, at least you can refer to your bf at home, and not look like a total loser.
P00hbear
P00hbear
This is always a challenge. My world of friends is much smaller than it was a few years ago, because I had to make some hard choices as to what aligns with my life and values - I found that too many people were simply acquaintances, not willing to give much back, and honestly I don't have time for that. With a demanding job, a dog and foster dog, husband, personal goals, and family obligations I have to dedicate any extra time to those I truly connect with, and I am finding that those are fewer and fewer between. A balance needs to be achieved and I remain open to new people, but still protective of my time. That leads to loneliness as the family we do have is not at all close. I have never fit in to the norms of society and I have accepted that and in fact embrace it. You will find those you connect with and it will be a natural fit. Try not to worry and to spend some time on your own interests as well.
Indiekid1509
Indiekid1509
Hi. I can relate also. I seem to have haemorrhaged friends the last few years and I didn't have that many to start with. I don't know why. I think I'm fun and a good friend, but I tend to get used by people until someone better comes along or they meet a guy. I'm not in touch with friends from school anymore, so most of mine came through work, mainly drinking buddies I have to say. I have a boyfriend, but he lives about an hour away so we get together at weekends and one night a week. I get on really well with his friends, so like to think I can class them as mine too, but feel he's the only person I have left now.
LonelyGirlL
LonelyGirlL
I know what you're going through! I feel the same way about wanting to have a friendship with someone that shares common interests! It does feel so hard to find and it's extremely frustrating that other people seem to find it so easily. I have the same type of problem with my boyfriend too. He is my only social connection. I feel like he's tired of it and me - It's a bad situation and one that I never wanted to get into. I hope you find someone to share your music tastes with -it's important!