Oh my gosh, I SO relate to this! My loneliness, too, can bring about really awful sensations of irritability and outright anger. I start to feel so much resentment toward people that are happy and in love, and I think about how I have to endure so much pain and suffering just because all the good qualities I have to offer don't come wrapped-up in a nice, neat, beautiful package. It makes me feel like almost everyone in the world is just so superficial, and that triggers and irritability that makes it very unhealthy for me to be out anywhere. So I totally get it.

It can be so difficult to overcome. I'm in the same boat as you. Have tried everything. Always rejected. Always.

Make a friend of your pain and despair. That's what I do. I always say that at least my despair won't fail me or reject me. It's been my constant companion for all these long years so why not embrace it? When you do that, it begins to be possible to see the humor in your own situation, and the scales start to tip back in your favor a bit.

Take care. Talk to me if you want. I get it. I really do.

Hi Ann54,

Like Skystonesun, I can also relate to the way you feel. I am here if you would like to talk.

Hi Ann :)

A brief note. The match-up sites didn't work for me either. However there were some interesting "almosts."

It all served as clarification for my values, goals, logistics. It was a worthwhile thing to try.

my 2%

I can relate too. Hugs

I know how you feel....hug!

I suggest that while you wait for your preferred other to arrive you fall in love with yourself AGAIN (yes, when you was a child I'm certain you loved yourself, very few children fail to). If you love yourself, then anybody and everybody will love you too... guaranteed!

oh boy

oh. I want to clarify. the "oh boy" was not to you Ann. I thgt I was reading response to my thread...however that happened. Anyway, I'm sure you are a lovely person, and it just isn't easy at our senior ages to find someone who is still a man w a heart and soul. I think maybe church groups and functions may be a reasonable place to meet someone. It's hard, I just used to meet people basicaaly where I lived and worked and through friends. Now I don't live in an area w like minded (souled) people and I don't work or have friends. So I relate. I certainly can't imagine the next thirty years being like my last 12 or worse.

wow, thanks everyone, it is so helpful to know you are not alone and that I have friends on here who get it. skystonesun, I thought I was so strange for having irritability and anger come out over being alone. my poor son bore the brunt of my irritation and when I realized why I talked to him and apologized and he gave me a big hug, then said, try the dating sites! been there done that. I must say I have rather given up in finding someone, I met men who were not at all what I was looking for and gave up. I still am hurt that none of my friends who work at companies and such over all 25 years have never been acquainted with a single/divorced man. I amstill feeling that pit in my stomach today, that hard pit of loneliness, but at least today I nhave a lot to do so I will be busy for part of the day. I think whe I am able to go back to work, I am on short term disability, maybe things will get better. I can only hope so. thanks everyone and hugsssss