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YouAreMyForever
YouAreMyForever
Why is it once two people get out of a relationship, everything turns hateful ?
I was in a 15 month relationship.. and he left me for someone else, and now we're hateful towards each other.. We actually aren't speaking as of a couple days ago.. But is it because we really can't stand each other ? Or maybe because there's still a lot of feelings there and we just try to push them away or something ? Whatever it is, i want to figure it out, so I can fix it.. I've been EXTREMELY mad lately, I snap at everything.. I just wanna fix it so I can go back to being me.. I don't want him to ruin who I am..
mycroftt
mycroftt
No one has the power to ruin who you are ..unless you give them that power...I have been there many many many times..
deleted_user
deleted_user
Here is the only answer for u that I can come up with. Pain and emotions in the brain work a certain way and in sequence. Here's an example. When a person is hurt, the very next emotion that surfaces is anger. If the anger is not dealt with, it immediately turns into rage. Anger and rage is the hate u r both experiencing with each other.
So "your" answer is, beat a wall with a pillow or beat a bed with a bat, cry it out, feel the pain, anger and rage leave, then the hate goes. That's how u fix it.