Loneliness Support Group
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So, my roommate and I used to be best friends. That's why I moved in with him- he's like a brother to me. Then he met his gf, and it totally changed him. She's a total bitch. She's controlling and domineering to him, but he says he's in love. Just the other night, she was drunk and tried to leave. When he tried to stop her from driving drunk, she became violent and hit him. He pushed her on the bed just to stop her from hitting him, then he punched the floor in anger and broke his hand in 3 places. After that I've been staying far away from her, which is difficult because she's here almost every night.
The last straw was just a few minutes ago. Me and my bf (who lives here) made dinner, and left the dishes in the sink. My roommate is not a neat freak, so we thought it was cool. My roommate comes home and sees the dishes in the sink, then comes knocking on the door to tell me I need to clean the kitchen *now*. Apparently his gf doesn't like a "messy" kitchen, so I should clean so shes not mad at him. The kitchen wasn't really messy. There were a few dishes in the sink, and one pot I had soaking. I would have done them anyway, I just hate being told to clean so Miss Priss isn't mad. It would be different if she lived here but she has her own place. I feel like you're in *my* home, you have no right to guilt anyone into cleaning. You don't like the mess, go home.
Sorry I know I sound like a hateful bitch, but I've had enough of her. I hate seeing my friend change so much for this girl and get nothing but grief in return.
I want my old friend back......
The last straw was just a few minutes ago. Me and my bf (who lives here) made dinner, and left the dishes in the sink. My roommate is not a neat freak, so we thought it was cool. My roommate comes home and sees the dishes in the sink, then comes knocking on the door to tell me I need to clean the kitchen *now*. Apparently his gf doesn't like a "messy" kitchen, so I should clean so shes not mad at him. The kitchen wasn't really messy. There were a few dishes in the sink, and one pot I had soaking. I would have done them anyway, I just hate being told to clean so Miss Priss isn't mad. It would be different if she lived here but she has her own place. I feel like you're in *my* home, you have no right to guilt anyone into cleaning. You don't like the mess, go home.
Sorry I know I sound like a hateful bitch, but I've had enough of her. I hate seeing my friend change so much for this girl and get nothing but grief in return.
I want my old friend back......
I'm stuck on the part where you talk about how an incident quickly escalated to physical violence. Neither of them handled that well and you are in the middle of it.
I think that bears a much closer look.
Bottom line they are both out of control. And your own anger is increasing. You call her names, but it seems to me that your beef lies with your best friend.
Step back and think what will improve the situation.
Did you & your roommate set up any basic house rules? If not, then you need to set some guidelines for your (yours & his) place. He needs to expect more from her...you need to expect more from him. Or there may be a change in the wind on who lives where.
Forget the emotions, who did this, who said that and tell him that you need to talk. Enough drama, you need fun and good times, people to respect your and his agreement. And within that dynamic...visitors who act out should go in time out, but not on your or his dime.
I wish you well, I truly do!
LR