Life After Divorce Support Group

This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.

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Momma2rz
Momma2rz

I'm 2 months out of a divorce I didn't want. Still living with my ex husband and our two kids. The living together is coming to an end in two weeks. Which is great. But I am having the hardest time adjusting to this entire situation. I never thought we'd end up divorced ( but who does). He basically needed a break from our family life. We both got caught up in work and kids. We we're exhausted. But for me it was never bad enough to give up. How do you just let go? Some days I'm fine others I just cry. I am angry with him for giving up on me and our family. I know it's over I just cannot wrap my head around it all. 

Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
I am on my way out right now, but I will answer your post tomorrow. Hugs Just got back. He checked out emotionally a long time ago. He must have had it all planned. You are the one that was caught off guard. Just like I was. It will be a hard road to recovery but you can do it. When he moves out, try to go no contact as much as possible. Remember if their lips are moving they are lying.
Momma2rz
Momma2rz
True. I've thought about all that. Hard to have no contact with kids but I know it's what I need.
Thanks for your reply.
carterbrautigan
carterbrautigan
After my first divorce, I needed some counseling to get re-grounded. Luckily, I had a steady income, so there was no financial stress other than the bills from the lawyer. LOL. Hang in there. Things will get better; just give it time. Hugs.
lovingmom
lovingmom
Good afternoon
I also have two kids with my ex husband and it s really hard to move on when you need to be in constant contact for the kids
But it ll get better, you ll learn to live without him and still have him in your life as a dad
Best of luck !
soundwave
soundwave
Some days are better than others but it will get better and better. Hang in there and keep yourself busy. Join a club, take up several hobbies, create projects for yourself. One of the best things that helped me was to understand the stages of divorce. Go search "stages of divorce" and see if that helps you. Good luck.
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