I wish I could blame something else, but it keeps coming down to it. My divorce changed my relationship between myself and two of my closest girlfriends.

One of them has a 5 yr-old and we have always been tight, even tho I have no kids. And when the other one gave birth to her first, things didnt change right away, even tho 2 months later I announced my impending divorce. Things were still fine until EX moved out of state. What used to be a pair of 'couple friends' now stopped calling, emailing, no more invites to go out. I started dating my now boyfriend and we had dinner with them once, but we had to drive out to see them. Now it is time for us to do our yearly halloween rituals (nothing wierd or satanic, i swear, lol) and she is blowing me off! Telling me she's having trouble finding a sitter! And doing it in a way that makes me feel stupid and like a burden to her.

The other one is just always 'unavailable' to hang out... But both of them have all kinds of comments on their myspace pages from other married gals or mommy's. "thanks for the playdate" and "see you tomorrow". So I know they aren't THAT busy... just too busy for me?

Sorry. venting. just crabby and sick of feeling like a leper. I was always there for both of them while they got married, had babies, bought houses... but the other day it dawned on me that since my ex left home not one of them ever called to ask how I was doing. And that sucks.