Get on with your life is what you all should be doing. Divorce is not the end of the world. I found alot of happiness and peace after I realized the toxic relationship i was in was bad and hurting me. First and foremost is realize you have to take it step by step. It is a process.

I agree whole heartedly with kityktz. I'd just like to add that it's better to want what you don't have than to have something you don't want...

For some (ME), divorced caused a huge financial disaster in which I am just now seeing a light after a year of darkness. For some (ME) the divorce caused huge emotional devastation for my daughter who loved her step-dad as a real dad and he no longer wanted either one of us. For some (ME), the marriage itself "seemed" to have no problems, as he was very loving, attentive and spoiled me and my daughter rotten. Problem; he was also sharing his love and attention to another woman and her kids too.
So for some of us, it has not been an easy road. For me its been slightly over a year and I am just now starting to receive real happiness again. This time without a partner. Just me and my kid.

When I look back, I can't believe the last two and half years and what I accepted as a life.
I think for me life still has its ups and downs, but this sure beatss liing with three self centered poeple that love to be miserable.
Things are better! the clam around here is priceless. My one son can get pretty angry but its more about his situation, which he is working very hard on.
But over all I wouldn't take back that miserable life for anything.
I think that is the point were you can really move on. She did me a hugh favor, yes it damn near took me out in all kinds of ways. But I am happier now.
I know that there are much better days that wait. And I am gting more and more prepared for them everyday.

I have never been happier. I do not need to worry about him. I was walking on egg shells the past 10 years. Yes...I left him due to his control, verbal abuse, and anger issues. YEAH...and now I am ready for part 2 of my life at 52 years old.

Must like what kityktz said, you get on with life. Life doesn't stop after divorce. It just feels like it. Like other thinks in life, divorce is a process. For many, divorce is a grieving process. We grieve what we had, what we thought we had, what we wanted, what we dreamed about, and what we should of had and didn't get. We get angry, we get sad, we bargain, we accept, we forgive, we let go, we move on. And no, these steps do not come in a sequence like that--bam, bam, bam--at least they haven't for me. Some days I'm angry, somedays I'm sad, somedays I'm accepting and forgiving, somedays I'm all, somedays I'm none. Its a process, it takes time. Be patient. I suspect its different for everyone. I am trying to embrace the experience, learn what I can from it and be happy with the positive things that have come from experience. It hasn't all been bad, and I know I am in a much better place now, divorced, than where I was a few years ago, married. Sometimes life takes us in unexpected places. Enjoy the ride! =) And keep living!!!! Divorce isn't the end guys (and gals) its just a bump in the road.

You are not defined by any other person. I married very young (19) and when I was divorced at age 29, I was re-introduced to myself (as an adult). I had 2 children depending on me, babies really and no help, even from their father. I made a choice to be happy again. Life really does go by quickly, it seems I was just that 28 year old and I blinked by eyes and I'm 60! Yikes! I now have 4 grandchildren - walked my daughters down the aisle and their father never looked back. He doesn't know what he is missing. Love yourself!

I am trying to move on and be a better man and a better person. I think I am doing both. I am in school. I am trying to date again. I am losing weight. I am in therapy to help me further my progression as a better human being.

I was seperated from my husband for 2 and a half years. My divorce was final on Sept 24th. I'm like you. I'm trying to be a better person myself. I'm just trying to be a better mother to my daughters. I'm in therapy as well and so far so good.

After 30yrs I have finally realise, that I'm not stupid,lazy,emotional, rude, friendless. I am single happy, incharge of my own life and am making a better job of it alone.
And the main thing, is I actually like my self.

Divorce saved my sanity. Where ever you are now in the process, if you stay positive, not be vindictive toward the ex, you will be amazazed where you are in 12 months. 12 months ago I was completely miserable and I started to the divorce process. We came to an agreement and were divorced in January of 2008. I tried eHarmony and thought it failed me, I was to newly divorced for most to take a chance with me. The last woman I emailed with wanted to meet me. We have been dating for over 6 months and I'm having great time living in the moment.

Life doesn't end after a divorce. For me I'm adjusting to living alone and frankly I'm finding that I like it. I'm not into finding a quick replacement for my ex and I have no desire to get into another relationship.

I'm discovering who I am and what I want. I would say, relax and figure out who you are.

After the war, I'm going to try and pick up the pieces and do what I set out to do when I decided to end my marraige~ be happy~ stay healthy, which means losing the weight I gained during the divorce.... I have purchased a townhouse, and will be moving soon...I just want to spend as much time with my sons as I possibly can, and try and rebuild the relationship with myself if that is possible.

After the war, I'm going to try and pick up the pieces and do what I set out to do when I decided to end my marriage~ be happy~ stay healthy, which means losing the weight I gained during the divorce.... I have purchased a townhouse, and will be moving soon...I just want to spend as much time with my sons as I possibly can, and try and rebuild the relationship with myself if that is possible.

I agree that life does not end in divorce.

I have recovered and have actually found someone that makes me happy! We have our issues, like most couples, however, I learned so much that I may actually get it right this time! I have learned out to really listen to what is being said to me and if I don't completely understand the issue, I ask questions. Communication,,,, that is what it is all about!