Yes, see a doctor. Depression affects all aspect of your life. It firsts starts with just feeling down or dissatisfied or sad. After a while it affects your sleep which in turn affects other parts of your life...work, friendships, motivations. This leads to other stresses which also increases your depression. It is a cycle. Talking helps. See a therapist. Many of us here deal with depression every day and are in the same boat as you are.

Hugs.

thank you for the advice, I will speak to my doctor for help. Anything I can do in the meantime? I try to stay busy which helps for a short while but as soon as I stop I start to slip again.

Www.divorcecare.org helps a lot plus therapy
And just To be around people that do understand.
The grieving alone Is pretty intense at the beginning
especially if The breakup was not your idea.

You will be on an emotional rollercoaster with a
Lot of uncomfortable feelings and emotions to
Process and work thru then face and hopefully let
go Of. Its a journey and there is no quick or easy
Way thru it. You have to go thru it first to get to the
Other side and its painful.

Keep reaching out for healthy caring support,
Stay away from negative or uncaring people.
Try to be as kind and gentle to yourself and do
Not beat yourself up. Own your part and work
On yourself.

The healing starts after the divorce is over and
All the financial and legal decisions have been
made. It is legally over and no more chance of
Reconciliation. Time takes time with the healing
And grieving Process, HUGS

thank you, I'm going to look into that link now. I'm really struggling at the moment so hopefully that will help

I hope they have one near you. I went for as long as
I needed to. DC is for 13 weeks and it cost $25 donation.
It is a little religious but the program and the people
Are great.

I do not take meds and ever since the split i have had
mild Depression, anxiety and stress. I do not get attacks
At all unless you count overload and overwhelm during
The divorce. Divorce is something to just survive and get
Thru. Its a bad time start to finish, use as much maturity
As possible.

I am getting better slowly, many people take three years
to normalize after the divorce is final. Take plenty of time to
work on yourself and to heal you and Your heart. Time takes
time as hard as that is to hear, HUGS

The nearest was is 50 miles away which is a shame, I'm trying to find something closer at the moment because I think talking about things will really help rather than keeping things bottled up. Sorry to hear about your situation too, divorce is tough as I'm finding out right now hope you will be ok

There is also a group www.rebuilding.org based
On bruce fishers book also Some churches offer
Divorce support groups, call around.

You could Call the divorce care number and ask
if there Is one closer and when. Sometimes they
don't List it if no dates are set up yet. I looked up
my area and I knew one was coming up and there
was nothing About that group at all.

I am okay, i am two years post divorce and went no
Contact. It takes time to heal and there is no rush
To jump into a new relationship. HUGS

Hi Sam,not knowing all details to which I don't have to.....you can only do 1 day,sometimes 1 hour at a time.....1st priority now is you,so with summer here ,go for walk on beach or a bike ride,clear your head of everything....fresh air will calm you and hopefully help you sleep....see the Dr.,and as one person said here,check your churches and also libraries in your area,alot of the times they have services or groups once or twice a week,even ask the Dr,when you go he may know groups in your area as well, stay strong,remember 1 hr,day at a time.

Im trying to stay busy that helps for a while, i honestly feel better talking about things already, its not something im used to doing

Hi Sam, thanks for friend request. That's what DS is here for,and why I like it,is because these lovely people on here never judge,we just listen,if we can help that is also a blessing..... Take Care.

Don't forget to try meetup.com for a possible divorce support group. Maybe you'll find one closer that an hour away! I tried the divorcecare group, but I was uncomfortable there, it just so happened that the group was comprised of very religious people, and I am not that way. Not all groups are. Then I found a support group on meetup, they only meet once a month and are 45 minutes away. I've gone to about 10 meetings in about 15 months, and there is such a comradery there. There's something to be said about speaking about difficult issues face to face. You see that people from every walk of life, every race, both genders, are all struggling with similar issues related to divorce. You can cry in front of these people and not be embarrassed, and you can lend support to those who are in the throes of despair too.