Life After Divorce Support Group
This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.
Many relationship books state that a majority of transitional dates after divorce never become a permanent relationship.
Two yrs. after my divorce I started to date a young beautiful teacher not initially realizing the red flags that I would discover. A month into dating I realized that this was not going to be long term and that I would give it a yr. and if nothing changed I would exit. She had been divorced 9 yrs. never did recovery, dealing with depression and a case of ADD. The symptoms of depression & ADD contributed to a majority of the red flags. After one yr. I was surprised that she exited. LOL I then found myself hurt because if anyone should have left it should have been me. Meanwhile my self-esteem is hurt and I'm trying to deal with it.
So what do you think of first relationships after divorce??
And how do you find someone with no or little crazy baggage??
Just some thoughts.
Two yrs. after my divorce I started to date a young beautiful teacher not initially realizing the red flags that I would discover. A month into dating I realized that this was not going to be long term and that I would give it a yr. and if nothing changed I would exit. She had been divorced 9 yrs. never did recovery, dealing with depression and a case of ADD. The symptoms of depression & ADD contributed to a majority of the red flags. After one yr. I was surprised that she exited. LOL I then found myself hurt because if anyone should have left it should have been me. Meanwhile my self-esteem is hurt and I'm trying to deal with it.
So what do you think of first relationships after divorce??
And how do you find someone with no or little crazy baggage??
Just some thoughts.
I think relationships after divorce are like those before divorce, except we are a bit older and (hopefully) wiser!
My heart hurt about every guy I broke up with in my dating years. It was nothing compared to my divorce. I still think of them with fond memories and you will too. I'm starting to think about my ex that way. After 30 years of marriage, I never thought I would be able to say that.
My first relationship will hopefully be friends first and then see how it goes. My kids (adults) would hate me dating. I would love to find a good guy friend to go to dinner etc. and have fun with. If I needed a date for something, I could call him and he could do the same. Unfortunately, all the single guys I know are also very good friends with my ex. I would never do that to him.
Sure, hurting does happen, but hell, we are not monsters. We are human. You will get hurt sometimes. It's a matter of living.
How to find someone without issues? Good luck. I choose to call them, not issues, but life lessons. If they have their stuff together, alright fine. If not, they are not gonna be seeing me.
Be picky. Relax. Have fun.
L~