Given what I came out of, I much prefer single. Is enjoying yourself running away. We need to enjoy ourselves. Going to have to get creative with the cast.

PERSONALLY, don't like it BUT I never found a Single man to date so I stayed single. I had to become my own best friend. At times, it seems normal to be single and at other times just feel alone. At this age, I'm hoping that all the kids are grown up, INDEPENDENT, and gone --no ex-wife calling at 5 a.m. during the week -- nagging at him while we're still in bed. I really think -- I'm not going to find Mr. Right since he hasn't come along by now.

I've been divorced for over 5 years. When I got my divorce a friend told me I needed to stay single for 3 years. She said I needed to find out who I was without this man in my life. I thought she was crazy. I knew who I was, I didn't need 3 years. I was wrong. I didn't know who I was. Even after 5 years, I am still learning. And like energylost sometimes being single feels normal and other times very lonely. But then I think I was lonely being married. Even having him there, I was still lonely....just didn't know it. Good luck!!!!

You mentioned you have a daughter so you are not alone. I have been legally divorced for less than one year but I've been emotionally divorced for almost five years. I'm very joyful. I have two wonderful daughter and I love them very much. I'm in a better place right now. I did not know how miserable my ex made me feel until I stop being angry about how he treated me. For the most part, I keep a smile on my face and my faith has kept me strong through the entire ordeal. I love my life now and I love the freedom that I have. He was such a big baby, complained about everything and was one of the most unhappy individual I ever met. He was miserable and he made us all miserable. I am in school trying to change my life with a new career and enjoying raising my girls the way I want too. I love my life. Please do not misunderstand me. It would be nice to have a man in my life but this is not the time. I agree that we need to take the time to find out who we really are or to rediscover who we really are and not rush into another relationship. The glass is very much half full for me. I see a wonderful future for me and my girls. Just give it a chance Raine take it slow. Everything has its perfect timing. My thoughts are with you.

I agree with the others. You are not alone. You have a daughter, but do you have friends? My divorce will be finalized in Sept. So i am completely new to this. But i am living with family now, so i at least have there support. BUT i dont want to be with another man. And its not cuz im bitter about my EX, i am - but i took care of him for 21 years, i dont want to take care of another man for the rest of my life. I mean, seriously, NO woman will find a man who can take care of themselves, who doesnt have any baggage or kids!! I have always like being alone. I prefer the quiet solitude. I love to read. I love to watch tv with no one around. I know you cant move much now, but what are your hobbies? Get out and volunteer - well once you can walk again! LOL! :) Since you can not move very well, someone is taking care of your basic needs, so this is a true friend - even if it is your daughter - so you are not truly alone. Right now I LOVE being single and just taking care of myself! Even if it's for years to come and even if I never have another life partner when i retire and live in an assisted living facility - there will always be plenty of old people to be friends with, so you'll never be alone! You ARE NOT RUNNING AWAY BUT TOWARDS to a NEW LIFE!

Its hard at first. but I would agree with the others. Several years alone is not wasted time, if you use it right. Get out and make new friends and try new things. Find out what you like, and what you won't tolerate. 2.5 years after my divorce I know myself much better than I did then. There were never any major revelations, but lots of little "a-ha" moments.

It also gives you perspective on what it is like to be alone (and its not bad) . This is good so you don't become fixated on being in a relationship.

I haven't found what you do as a single person yet, but I am finally able to be single .

Two years into my being single, and I'm finally ok being alone. I never thought I would be happy when the kids go to their dads, but now I look forward to it.

How do I feel about it, at this point I am OK with it. Do I wish I had someone to watch my favorite show with sure, but do I want a relationship not at this point.

I am no longer mourning the loss of my marriage, I have finally accepted that it is over and I have grieved the loss. But I am no where ready to put myself out there yet, I never want to hurt like that again.

I am just starting to get out, I have started working out with a personal trainer and a small group of other ladies... I've also started selling a Direct Sales product at home parties just to force myself out of the house.

Kids still keep me busy but when they are away I need to find the new ME

I often tell newbies that you have to "learn to be single again." I didn't realize this at first when I separated and divorced my ex, but I learned quickly that you essentially are leaving one club for another, and you have to learn the rules of the new club. You knew the rules at one time (before you married), but you've forgotten them.

But it's just like riding a bike--you will find your way back.

I have been single now for almost six year and I love it (sometimes a little too much). I occasionally long for companionship with a man, but that longing is typically short-lived when I look at some of the losers that are available in my age range. I guess the thing I love most about being single is I am accountable to only me. After spending 28 years catering to a verbally/emotionally abusive cheater, I like the focus being on me for a change.

I agree with the others that you need to learn how to be alone, and need to take time and learn about yourself.

Sending hugs!

I feel strange being alone. I definitely never thought that I would be. I am feeling optimistic but impatient at the same time. I do realize that I need this time to be alone but at the same time I am praying, trying to stay focus and use the pain of divorce to heal and heal others. It gets hard for me. I do want someone in my life but only the RIGHT SOMEONE so I realize that takes time. Remain prayerful and focus on YOU. I definitely want to be in a healthy relationship and I can see from your statement you do too. Be blessed and I will be praying for you.