Liars Anonymous Community Group

A support group to provide those with a compulsive addiction to lie a place to share hope, strength and courage with others like them; solve our common problem and help others with a compulsion to lie. We aren't alone!

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fattymcslimjim 10/19/2018

Hello, my name is Brett. I have been lying my whole life ever since I was a kid. I lie becasue i'm ashamed and try to hide that shame from everyone. I have lied to my wife the most and it's costing our marriage. I lied about watching porn and about an affair. My wife has told me repeatedly that she would always forgive me and not be mad if I always come forth with the true. Knowing this I was still too afraifd and shamed to tell her the truth. Now with my marriage on the line I am desperatly trying to change.

I have been reading everyone's stories and advice and I am inspired more and more after each one I read and I look forward to becoming more involved. I need to change. I want to change. I am open to any kind of advice and I apreciate anyone's help.

Thank you

gwilly 10/20/2018

That's good to hear that you have been reading people's there is a lot of helpful suggestions there figure out who exactly you want to be. Understand that you do have a serious problem, then pick the suggestions that seem for you more than you or that would help you get to be the person that you want to be, then follow through with us questions. Make a daily plan to do things change your life inter habits, and things will go better for you. It truly is not easy, but it is possible. Good luck.

Bigfoot 10/22/2018

I’m a liar. The advice on this site helps me lie less. People ask for tips. Some that work for me: 1. Pause. Don’t just talk. Think for a moment before the stuff comes out of my mouth. 2. Read this site often and post. 3. Keep something physical in my pocket, a marble or something tangible to remind me not to lie. 4. If I lie, correct it ASAP. A lie uncorrected starts to stink. It is burdensome. Get it corrected - apologize - accept consequence. Move on. 5. If I lie, ask myself, am I trying to get attention? Make myself “more impressive?” I’m good enough. Being consistently adequate is enough.

NeoSoul 10/22/2018

Thank you for your share. I agree with the suggestions here. I repeat "I am imperfect, but and I am good enough." This helps remind me that whether I lie or not I don't lose my status as a worthy human being. That helps me lie less because I no longer have to work to earn approval, or to hide myself, etc. It's awfully hard though, especially when the lies become a web of lies. :)

rp1234 10/24/2018

Another thing to try is to not alwasys think of things that you should do but rather think about how you want to change or work on. Alsways thinking of life as should or should not brings the mind back in the loop of shame if you didn’t do something you “should” do. At least this is one way I am moving forward. Keep strong and love life.

domingo0022 10/24/2018

You came to the right place brother. Let it out, don't keep anything in. We are here to help!

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