get out !!!!! she needs to choose. this will be hell for you if you choose to stay. you have to take care of your self. if she had any love for you she would not even bring him up. the honey stage is over .

You said: ""I hear things like how she misses him holding her.""


That would be all for me. I would get out, especially that early on in the relationship. There are obviously unresolved feelings she is having for him and, honestly, the fact that she got with you when she was "in the process" of leaving him makes this whole thing scream *rebound* from her end.

Good luck!

When your gf says she misses her her holding her, whether her ex was male or female, this is a very clear sign that she is not ready to let you into her heart completely because it still belongs to someone else...
As babagotfoi said, this screams rebound..., don't try kid yourself of any other fact. She is in a needy and vulnerable situation within herself, that's why she's rebounding..., it's a coping mechanism. This is not a safe place for either of you to be in (((hugs)))
Here's are some wise words I received and I'm going to pass this onto you:
Based on personal experience, my advice would be to not get involved with someone who has just come out of a relationship. They may appear to be all you've ever wanted but it is important to see them for who they really are..., hurting, alone, confused. You can offer support but not your heart, because until they learn to heal from the pain of their break-up they will only be able to need you. What you truly deserve is to be wanted in a healthy and loving way!
Take good care of Yourself here (((hugs)))

Typo: meant to say "her ex holding her" not "her her holding her"...

I ended things yesterday.. My heart is breaking. She still has no idea why I did it. She thinks it's ok to sleep on her ex's couch.. I dont agree. I was her first serious lesbian relationship. NEVER dating another bi woman... no offense. I explored the bisexual realm myself it's not for me. I guess she was in my life for a season.

Right, now move foreward. All good luck!

NO way....these are HUGE red flags! You need to protect yourself and if she is saying those things it only means trouble for you. I know sometimes we dont want to believe the worst but i have seen this a million times. If she hasnt already she will slip up. I think you know what you need to do already just from your post. Be strong...there are plenty of women out there who are gay and will love you and be loyal.