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Taking a Break

karleyjo11
karleyjo11
I was just wondering anyone's opinion on taking a break from a relationship. I have been with this girl for 7 months and i am so happy with her and i love her to death. She swears she has a curse because she loses interest in a girl after 6 months and i am lucky to make it this far. My problem is is that i have mad feelings for her and wanna be with her but she is very unsure all of the sudden and we have decided to take a break. I told her that we are still together just breaking and that if we feel different within the next 2 weeks on our break then we will break up. I love her to death and don't wanna break up but i just hope she realizes that she feels the same for me as she has told me in the past.
deleted_user
deleted_user
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barbarame
barbarame
Seems you have no option but to allow her the space to find out if she is ready to commit. If is not a case of allowing her to go, if she wants out she will go anyway, so just wait to see what the outcome of the seperation is. One usually has many relationships anyway, so maybe this one needs to just be a friendship? Don't be needy. You have only been together 5 months and coped very well before you two met. Good luck - let us know,
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've just agreed to a break in my relationship. We've been together 8 years and I am unhappy. I tried to leave my other half this morning, but its not always that easy. She's going a way for a few days and I'm going to stay at home and think about what I want and why I've suggested a break. Deep down in my heart of hearts, I know a break will work - What I', trying to say is hold tight, if its meant to be it will be, they do say absence makes the heart grow fonder.... Good luck and I hope it works out for you xx
MzFly
MzFly
Taking a break is not a bad thing, and sometimes very necessary. My partner and I have been together for almost 8 years. Webare currently at a point where we need to assess what we both want and to see if our individual needs are being met. I am moving out and we have agreed to work on our relationship while we both take some time for ourselves. I have high hopes for us but the future is never certain and we both need to make sure we are creating the reality we want to live.
I would suggest taking this time for yourself and truly give to you. Try not to worry too much about what your gf is doing or thinking. Sometimes a little space is needed to really see what is important to us. It sounds like you have honesty and communication with one another and it's important that you can respect one another in this way. Hang in there and stay true to you. Best!
oceanamoonjl
oceanamoonjl
karleyjo11,

Sorry to hear that you are upset re: taking a break.Sometimes, its a good thing to take a break and revaluate things. Having a break may oftentimes bring about the solution.

Sounds to me, like your GF isn't sure what she wants. To say she feels she has a 6 mo. curse, because she loses interest in someone? Sounds more like fear of lasting commitment and struggle with true intimacy issues on her part. & Sorry to say, a bit like a "cop out." Or like she just wants to date new people every 6 mo or so.

Honestly, I don't know her history or yours with her. But I do know its hard when you love someone, to have the fear of losing them. I do hope whatever happens? That you will take good care of yourself.

You deserve to be happy, we all do.

Blessings & Best of luck to you,

Jess
karleyjo11
karleyjo11
Thank you everyone for the amazing advice, her and i have worked things out and are stronger then ever now. I know we may have our misunderstandings but we have worked through them and are doing great. thanks everyone for the great advice it really helped:)