All you can do is sit her down and tell her how you feel. If she likes them just because of the brand, then try and match the brand and maybe buy one that looks just like the one that she uses. If you throw them out anyways, I doubt she will be happy...and all it can create is a hostile environment because it will start a fight since she already told you she did not want them thrown away once before.

Like I said, sit her down, tell her you are having some issues that you need to get off your chest and tell her how you feel. If she is not understanding of this, then all you can do is try and come to a compromise at the very least...and if she's not willing to do that, well, you have a lot of other things to consider, because if you cannot get into the mood because of these toys, well, you're love-life is really at stake. Much as people might say it's :not about the sex", sex is still a very important part of a healthy relationship, especially for people such as me who are very sexual beings.

Still, try and talk it over with her first before you make any drastic decisions.

I don't think you're wrong for not wanting to use a toy you're gf used with her ex. Maybe just buy another one yourself? If she complains then tell her why, maybe she will understand why if u tell her your uncomfortable and don't want a reminder of your ex in that intimate setting. Hope it works out.

thanks for your advice. i did tell her after posting this how it was making me feel.she said ok throw them out.which was not her reaction before when i've mentioned it. we went through our sex toys and as i picked out her "old" ones to throw out she was saying "that cost me 70 etc" then she mentioned she had had one of them since her first g/f and she's had about 7 relationships after that so it wasn't second hand it was 8th or 9th hand i was like euwwwwww. when i picked up the double ender we had brought at the beginning of our relationship which i found was to big and painful for me to use (tilted womb etc) she said she had enjoyed great times with double enders and as we had only tried once to use it i knew she didn't mean with me which really hurt and made me feel inadaquet . on a lighter note i hope the cats don't pull our dustbin bag apart on dustbin day lol

All you can do is go shopping with her and try and pick out something that the both of you will enjoy. If the double-ender was too big and hurt her, then go buy a different size. I used to have a double-ender but honestly, I found that regular harnesses where you can change out the pieces work the best. Sure, it takes away the extra pleasure for the one using the strap-on, but, you can buy pieces that better suit your needs, it will last you so much longer, and they are easier to take care of and to clean.
Just make sure she gives you some special attention afterwards, and you should be good to go ;)

Assuming you were talking about a strap-on and not a normal dildo or something. Hm...just tell her you get jealous when she brings up her past. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable because you want her to be in the here-and-now. I too told my partner the same thing because she also made it clear to me that she hated me mentioning my past sex-life...so we just know not to bring it up unless asked specific questions about it.

I think you should get new ones together that you can both enjoy.. there are plenty online to choose from.! I got some sexy new toys to play around with and they're doing an AMAZING job! I got them on http://www.newlovin.com/ have a look! Goodluck :)