ive been with my partner 5 years now but for the past 4 years as soon as she got her pc up and running she hardly spends anytime with me .we are talking 15 hours a day sometimes and staying up all night sometimes and sleeping all day then back on it. ok i knew she didn't "do" housework when i met her but i expected for her to at least wash up sometimes but she doesn't. in a nutshell she is bone idle. neither of us works but i seem to be cleaning etc all day everyday plus help my parents . i'm physically and emotionally worn out plus i have arthritis of my knee so i find walking about difficult.and we have a big garden. the idea of getting married has popped up a few times but basically she wants everything her way i won't bore you with details but she basically wants everything to suit her family even down to the venue . it popped up again last week so i told her straight unless she limits her time on her pc and spends time with me no way am i getting married to someone who spends more time on their pc than with their partner. we agreed to a limit of 5 hours a day but already she is making excuses to stay on longer,sometimes when she is on it in the daytime i have to go and rest my knee and take a nap so she says that time doesnt count when i do that . so i could be resting for say 2 hours while shes on her pc but when i come down she will then be on it for 5 hours after ive come downstairs. so i feel she is just not really serious about us getting married . even after we came back from my aunts wake she went straight on her pc,not even offering to make me a coffee or ask if i was ok,her excuse was it was her way of coping. but its excuse after excuse. but if i tell her i don't want to get married at all now as ive had enough of her excuses and more or less ignoring me she will play "you don't love me" card or what is the point of being in a relationship etc. i do love her and i know she loves me but there are serious things wrong in our relationship. i will give you just one example. her niece asks her to go to this comic con she says yes. but then something i want us to go to comes up. what i wanted to go to was on just one day. what her niece wanted to go to was on two days ,but my partner couldnt go on the saturday so was going on the sunday when the show i wanted to go to was on. then i found out her niece had already gone to this comic con on the saturday so i told my partner this and as her niece had already been we could go to the show i wanted to go to. but she refused and said her niece was going again on the sunday and her niece wanted her there.her niece is 22 with her own friends, i found this totally unfair this comic con was the same on the saturday as it was on the sunday nothing different just a few stalls in a hall.