Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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Um, this is kinda personal and its only for girls to help me with and that is why I am doing this in the Lesbian relationship Challenges, because I figured most if not all will be women. This also could be a relationship challenge whenever I get into a relationship...If I ever get into a relationship.
Ok, I am having some problems and we think I may have had a cyst that ruptured somewhere, like an ovary or something. It hurts really bad n all that happy crap and my doctor was going to do that "just checking" thing and I freaked out. I started crying and wouldnt let her do it. My mom told me since I am under 18 she is making me do it and I refused to move. I didnt know exactly why I didnt want her "down there" but when she came in she started talking about stuff happening to me which would make me not want to and then she said I may be ashamed of my body....and she told me to think about it because I need it checked out. I told my mom I would rather bleed to death out my vag then to have her swab, because I am so scared of someone seeing me. So that could also prove to be a problem if I were to get into a relationship. I am so ashamed and self concious about my body I didnt even want to tell them its because I dont like my body. I dont know what to do, I have never thought I was this bad about my body. I know it needs changes bad but I never thought it was this bad. I have been crying since, and it was 10 this morning. 9 hours ago. I dont know what to do about this and I didnt know where exactly to post this but this group seemed the best place.....PLEEEEEEEAAASE respond....
Ok, I am having some problems and we think I may have had a cyst that ruptured somewhere, like an ovary or something. It hurts really bad n all that happy crap and my doctor was going to do that "just checking" thing and I freaked out. I started crying and wouldnt let her do it. My mom told me since I am under 18 she is making me do it and I refused to move. I didnt know exactly why I didnt want her "down there" but when she came in she started talking about stuff happening to me which would make me not want to and then she said I may be ashamed of my body....and she told me to think about it because I need it checked out. I told my mom I would rather bleed to death out my vag then to have her swab, because I am so scared of someone seeing me. So that could also prove to be a problem if I were to get into a relationship. I am so ashamed and self concious about my body I didnt even want to tell them its because I dont like my body. I dont know what to do, I have never thought I was this bad about my body. I know it needs changes bad but I never thought it was this bad. I have been crying since, and it was 10 this morning. 9 hours ago. I dont know what to do about this and I didnt know where exactly to post this but this group seemed the best place.....PLEEEEEEEAAASE respond....
That said, about your body issues, it'll be good if you talk and seek for professional help and talk about it. This days, the definition of beauty has so many dimensions... the "standard" pretty that we thought was it does not define beauty anymore... Sweetie, beauty is relative, physical beauty that is... now, what really counts is your inner beauty, and each and everyone of us has it... you have to be very special to be on this page... means that you are looking for more than what is apparent and what we take for granted... you are seeking for meaning, light, wisdom, to grow, and that makes you pretty special... if you are taking anti-depressants, means that something is not quit right... i take them too. are you taking them as you are supposed to? know that, if you are going through a depression and do not take your meds as you are suppose to and/or stop taking them, it will take a period of 2 weeks for you to start feeling better again so, don't play with that one... Have you ever talk to your dr about your body issues? you have to talk about it... have you???
Life is beautiful, and i am sure you are too... always keep in mind that, the darkest point of the night is right before the sunrise... this will get better... trust me... but you need to do your part... keep me posted, please...
Thank you by the way for your nice reply. I appreciate it.
Everyone feels self-conscious to a degree. However, I agree that you need to talk to someone about how you feel about yourself.
You're young yet, and you are important. You need to take care of yourself. You don't really want to have something terrible happen to you. Liklehood is that it may be something as simple as a burst cyst (I know they are very painful, I've experienced it). But remember that you have a beautiful life ahead of you.
You spoke about being afraid of a relationship. Sweetie, my beautiful wife and partner is overweight as well, and I love her to death. She loves me, regardless of what I weigh. You fall in love with the beauty inside of a person.
I'm sure that you have lots to offer, but the first thing you must do is take care of yourself. Doctors understand that women feel uncomfortable during exams...and that's normal. If this doctor isn't the one you want, then use another one. But do take care of yourself.
Let us know what happens...and take care.