Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months and she was dating a girl before me and they had sex like 2 times and she was honest and told me so i wouldnt find out on my own and get mad... I keep trying to not let it bother me but it does it actually bothers me soo much it hurts and now i dont know how to get over that fact she did all that with her.... I guess its just jealousy cuz she was her first and i wasnt... i really need some advice i dont know what to do...
I want to be really brutally honest.....but I will just say this hon....step back and really think this through. Cheated on twice in six months. Is this REALLY someone you can trust in the future?
Okay.. So she didn't cheat on you. She was physically intimate with the girl she dated before you.
And, this is haunting you because.......
Nobody did anything wrong but live their life. Everyone you meet for the rest of your life will have had a past; and it will entale many physical encounters. It's just....life.
So in essence, you are torturing yourself. You are allowing unneccessary thoughts and your wild imagination to overshadow what is actually very real and perfectly normal.
The results of this will be lose yourself into a fantasy world, and lose whomever you romantically hook up with in the future. You need to live in the here and now: be in the moment girl.
Consider taking some time and looking deep within yourself to see what is causing this very harmful and destructive self-torture, or find a professional who can help.
I don't see anything at all positive coming from what you're doing to yourself. Nobody deserves living in this self imposed negative place.
Keep us posted on how this all works out fo you!
((sending you a reality check))