Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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i need to end my relationship but when i have mentioned the subject before she thinks she can still live with me but in the spare room until she gets somewhere else. but i want a clean break no hanging around. i know the chance of her getting a local authority house is nearly nil as they have big waiting lists she doesn't work either. after her last g/f finished with her she slept on her sofa until she got somewhere . she has often told me during rows she is off to her sisters house and i'm quite sure her sister would let her stay. i have tried and tried in this relationship i still love her but i can not take anymore of this. it's mainly all over a pc game she plays earlier this year her pc went wrong she was straight up the repair shop .yes she is addicted to this game although she won't admit it but could anyone really say that spending alot more time on a game than with their partner is fair. i have tried discussing it with her many times trying to reach a compromise but she just starts turning it all round on me,it's her way of unwinding,it's her coping mechanism.(shes bi polar) and last night after again she was on it at 3.30am i woke up and again tried and told her our relationship was at risk but again i got now where. so i've given up i can't take it no more being in a relationship with someone who clearly doesn't want to spend time with me. as for the house we live in it's rented in my name only.but how do i get her to leave ? i have a mental illness as well and it's going down but of course that wouldn't interest her. i passed out in pain the other night(womens problems) she was in the other room playing her game ,eventually i managed to get up off the floor and go and tell her. she just told me to go to bed as i was in pain but all the time continued to play her game. so do i need any further proof she doesn't care about me only this game. so instead of giving her the choice me or the game as if she won't even compromise i know which she would choose. only last night when i was saying how i felt all i got was she had been building her characters up for 7 years shes been with me for just over 4 years. so i need advice on how to finish this relationship and how to actually get her to pack up and leave and not have her stay here until she eventually finds somewhere else.
She deserves to be treated with the same respect you gave her when she moved in. It's not as if she's a dog that you can drop off at the local shelter then forget about. She's a human being that you once loved and this about a roof over her head.
If you are serious about her moving out, tell her the complete truth about this relationship being over; then ask her how soon she can leave. Be calm, gentle, firm and respectful (as you would want someone to be with you) and don't allow the discussion to end until you both compromise on a move out date. If it becomes a disagreement than you have no choice but to take prompt legal action, and that's a whole other post.
This is about a break up of two people who were together for 4 years. I'm not in support of hanging out with someone when the relationship is clearly unhealthy and/or over; but I do have a problem with ending a primary relationship in a cruel, disrespectful manner.
Good luck