my partner plays a online game called world of warcraft alot. about 6 months ago now she brought headphones and mic to chat to the other players. then she started using her skype which she hadnt used in the 4 years we have been together. then one day a few months ago ok i know i was in the wrong but i looked at her skype and saw a conversation which said she was part of. she hadnt anything but there was two males one asked if she wanted sex and the other was saying the other male loved my g/f. i was so angry the red mist descended and i deleted all her male contacts on there . then the next day i told her what i had done and why she said she only uses the mic and has skype minimized and does not see what people are writting. and they was 14 year old boys who was just teasing each other. but she was really angry at me and slapped me i was really scared. that was a few months ago. she stopped playing world of warcraft for a while but the day before my aunts funeral who i was close to i noticed she had started playing it again,even just after my aunts funeral yesterday when we got back she went straight on it .then tonight she started chatting on her mic again i couldnt hear what was being said as i was in the other room. then after she had gone to bed i had to go into where her pc is to turn off the lights in there i noticed on the skype symbol on her taskbar there was some kind of message ,so i looked but only looked so she wouldn't know. this lad who my g/f told me his friend had been teasing now has his screen name as "matthew (then a picture of a love heart) then my g/f name. i'm gutted,i don't know what to think anymore. i have always trusted her to be faithful ,i believed her when she said they was 14 year old lads teasing each other. but then why would the one that was being teased change his screen name to this. but i can't talk to my g/f about it as she will know ive looked at her skype. things are going through my mind like are they 14 year old boys or men or even if this matthew is male but female. how would others deal with this? i'm greiving over my aunt i can't deal with this. i know i should not had looked i was wrong.