Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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Greetings friends! I write seeking advice so here goes.. My girlfriend of two years and I broke up a few months ago and Ive been SOOOOO heartbroken/sad. I miss her immensely. The short story is is that she was my first deeply committed lesbian relationship. It was AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In a nutshell though it eventually became clear that she was ready for more (shes a little older and had been in a few other committed relationships) and while I wanted to be ready I simply wasnt. Since our break-up I have been DEEPLY broken-hearted and miss her, our life together and everything so much. Id like advice on how to be with the pain and how to heal from a first-love. Thank you in advance for your input!
Then a month later i found out she was talking to this girl for couple of month and had been dating her... Fact was we broke up about 20 day or a month... So the idea of her talking to someone at my back... Later after dating her... helped me move on....
Hey, a person has to have some selfesteem right?? Why should I cry for someone who is not sincere...? Or doesnt love me..? So whenever I miss her.. I tell myself she is not worth it.. Not the one... Time is healing it as well...
But this is not the case with you.. There seems to be no biterness.. It just didnt workout for whatever issues there were... I guess time is the big healer... It heals major wounds.... U will get there... Sooner or later.. Just try to keep yourself very busy... Try not to think about her as much as possible.. Slowly slowly it would pass... I guess... I dont know...
Just dont giveup trying.. Stay strong... Things happen for reasons... May be this is not your destination. Your destination is someone else...
But if things were really great.. U were really serious... Dont throw all of it out... If she is willing to have u back and u think, she is really the one.. Then dont give up yet... Try to fix things.. Get some professional help if needed... But if nothings remaining.. Just let the time heal....
I hope someone could give u better advice.. Im still in process..
don't look for someone else too soon. Sit with this for a while and heal...and care for yourself. Find things you like to do (when you are able to not feel like all you want to do is be with her) and get out and meet new people.
But...sit with it for a while and don't feel like you have to push yourself.
Blessings for some peace and ease in your heart (hug)