Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
This community is for those who are in a gay marriage, and the unique challenges that may be had in a same-sex relationship. Find support and talk to others in a same-sex marriage, and get advice from the experiences of other members.
alijoezack
i have been dating a woman for a couple of months. for the first time in my life i am the dominant one and it feels good. she is very kind and caring and there for me 24-7. its been rocky emotionally but it always is with for me. but i am stronger than have ever been still seeing councelor weekly. ive been lost because my boys moved away to college. she has her kids full time so little difficult seeing each other. i tend to go there alot weekends for she cant come to my place. im exhausted from working alot and being there alot. she is very intense and i dont get much sleep so im wiped out. last weekend i left her place because i had enough of her teenage daughters screaming and yelling at my gf telling her how horrible a person she is. on way home a car full of kids almost hit me and i lost it emotionally. for first time in my life i almost put my car in park and got out. they were only teenagers. that scared me badly. i lost control and i hated it so i have been very distant since then and not sure what to do. councelor says i know deep down what to do but it hurts bad. she is everything i thought ever wanted but cant do it. it hurts more that im hurting her.
deleted_user
I have been told (more than once) that suffering occurs when you want things to be different than how they really are. It sounds like you're suffering. And it sounds like you know the reality of the situation. So what can you do to change it, if anything? Can you take some time just for yourself so you can rest? Have you talked to her about how it makes you feel to hear her kids treat her badly? Keeping in my mind that you can only change yourself. Can you arrange to see her when the kids aren't around? I know things are hard, but you do hold the key for peace within. And that is what I wish for you...
alijoezack
thank you i went up north and visited family and had a very relaxing weekend. i have explained to her how i feel she just says she will handle it. i have asked her for space and time. cant mentally stay with someone that disrespects me or lets the world walk all over them. but i feel cruel for this. i know i will end up blowing up at her kid but its not her fault she has been allowed to be like this her whole life. im walking away before i do this
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