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Hi guys I'll jump straight to the point. My girlfriend, Daphne recently ended things with me. I can't say I'm surprised considering that she is constantly accusing me of cheating which I never did. Well what happened was I went out last night to celebrate a good friends birthday, at the last min they wanted to go clubbing, so I texted my ex that I was going clubbing with friends. She flew into a rage, her reason being that I was still playful and not settling down material. That being said she sometimes hangs out with her own lesbian friends for drinks till late into the night.
To be honest I am not sad, just angry, angry at her constantly accusing me when I have tried to so damn hard to please her. And the whole time I was with her I've never felt so dull, bored and uninspired. I come from the creative industry while she is in finance. I feel the issue here isn't so much about the relationship ending more like the impact of it has left me feeling rather uninspired.
Things that used to bring me joy like, exercising, going for fashion photo shoots or just playing a video game used to excite me. Everything seems kinda grey to me now. I don't know if it was the effect of me suppressing my needs to please hers that has lead to this. I'm not entirely sure what I am not motivated.
To be honest I am not sad, just angry, angry at her constantly accusing me when I have tried to so damn hard to please her. And the whole time I was with her I've never felt so dull, bored and uninspired. I come from the creative industry while she is in finance. I feel the issue here isn't so much about the relationship ending more like the impact of it has left me feeling rather uninspired.
Things that used to bring me joy like, exercising, going for fashion photo shoots or just playing a video game used to excite me. Everything seems kinda grey to me now. I don't know if it was the effect of me suppressing my needs to please hers that has lead to this. I'm not entirely sure what I am not motivated.
deleted_user
So you are angry that you are not enthusiastic about your life anymore?
kayepyon
Hello! Sounds like you still got a lot of moving on to do. Having gone through a breakup myself, I understand how grey everything seems to you right now. On the brighter side, you'll be fine eventually. You just need some time to slowly get yourself back together since you could have been drained from the relationship. In time, you'll find everything slowly regaining color. :)
deleted_user
In my experience with an EX I worked 40 hours a week went to school 25+ hrs and I was the one cheating... In the end all th insecurities that that they project onto you are ones they are dealing with themselves... In the end SHE was cheating on me. Stay true to you and be honest. Find someone that lets you be you and nothing less... Its all any of us deserve. :)
barbarame
You have to be your own person. Sounds like even a trial break might be a good idea now. Nobody should be telling somebody what they may or may not do the whole time. Both of you need to agree on "own" time
deleted_user
I know that feeling.. but the angry has taken over your sadness.. there will come a time that you will feed sad i tell you because now all you have in your head is the negative part of your relationship with this girl. But I don't think that you've had only bad part right? You see everything grey because somehow this is affecting you more than you realised.
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