Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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this is going to be long so please bear with me. when i first met my g/f about 2 years ago she played world of warcraft. one day i was sitting in her flat while she was at her laptop and she suddenly rushed out to the computer shop not telling me why. she was looking at the world of warcraft stuff in this shop but couldnt find what she was looking for.she then asked to borrow my bank card when we got back i then asked why she said she needed to buy game time for this woman in another country who also played with her online on warcraft. but the shop didnt have a gametime card. i wasn't happy and said no .
anyway when she moved in with me her keyfob authenticator got lost so she couldnt go on warcraft then a year later she buys another one.that was it she spent most of her time on warcraft until the early hours of the morning. but recently i found out she is still paying for gametime for this woman who has given my g/f a sob story how she gets little benefits etc etc and shes depressed and warcraft is her lifeline. but even though i said this woman is a pro con artist my g/f wont listen. but today curiouristy got the better of me and i know it was wrong i hold my hands up to that. but i looked at my g/f's skype and read something my g/f had put to this woman "missing you hun" now i took that to mean missing her on warcraft as then my g/f put "we all missing you" then i saw my g/f had made skype calls to her aswell one nearly 2 hours long early hours in the morning when i'm in bed.
now my mind is jumping to conclusions my g/f assured me in the past this woman is just a friend she plays warcraft with. i might add at this point my g/f does nothing else around the house but play on warcraft or watch tv. what do i do? just keep quiet as my g/f gets angry if i say anything about this woman . i have asked my friends advice they all said they would not let their partners spend money on another woman .
anyway when she moved in with me her keyfob authenticator got lost so she couldnt go on warcraft then a year later she buys another one.that was it she spent most of her time on warcraft until the early hours of the morning. but recently i found out she is still paying for gametime for this woman who has given my g/f a sob story how she gets little benefits etc etc and shes depressed and warcraft is her lifeline. but even though i said this woman is a pro con artist my g/f wont listen. but today curiouristy got the better of me and i know it was wrong i hold my hands up to that. but i looked at my g/f's skype and read something my g/f had put to this woman "missing you hun" now i took that to mean missing her on warcraft as then my g/f put "we all missing you" then i saw my g/f had made skype calls to her aswell one nearly 2 hours long early hours in the morning when i'm in bed.
now my mind is jumping to conclusions my g/f assured me in the past this woman is just a friend she plays warcraft with. i might add at this point my g/f does nothing else around the house but play on warcraft or watch tv. what do i do? just keep quiet as my g/f gets angry if i say anything about this woman . i have asked my friends advice they all said they would not let their partners spend money on another woman .
First off, you mentioned she had to borrow your bank card so that she could buy game time for this woman. Having been a gamer, I know for sure that you don't spend for another person who is from another country unless there's some form of attachment, which I seem to notice is present based on their Skype exchanges.
Speaking of their Skype exchanges, I can't help but wonder why she only calls this woman when you are already in bed. Personally, I think this is a red flag since why would she do this behind your back if she only sees the other woman as a friend and nothing more?
I would advice you to end your silence, and try to ask her to sit down and have a serious talk with what is really going on. Try a different approach, one that would not lead her to get angry. Maybe instead of asking her right away about this woman, try telling her about what you feel and that you're just telling her to let her know. If she cares about you, she'll figure out on her own that she might already be hurting you and try to make improvements on the situation herself. However, if she still gets angry at you, then I'm sorry to say but no one deserves that kind of treatment. Also, as her gf, she should be more focused on spending time with you than with her WoW playmate (even than the game itself).
I hope this helps.