Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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I ve always labeled myself as bisexual, but for the past year, I have had no interest in men even my own husband. I can't see me living a life without him, I do love him but in the bedroom there s just no fireworks. It's not him it's me, he ll do everything right but I'm not into him at all:( I never told my family because of their view on lesbians, apparently gay guys are okay but girls are not okay to date other women? Confusing and frusterating yes. When my mother found out my girlfriend was bi she was no longer allowed to stay the night after that. So I hid in a closet and married a boy just as I was suppose to do. I should be the happiest women on the planet right now being a stay at home mommy but I'm not, my husband knows about my confusing sexuality and would understand if I had a girlfriend cause we cannot get divorced, my family would deff disown me then :-/ can a women become a lesbian in her 20's?? Thanx for hearing my story and double thanks for any advice/answer
The real issue, as I see it, is what is going on between your husband and you? Were you ever excited and interested in sex with him? Is this something new or feelings you've had for a while? Have you talked to him about how you feel? Have you thought about a more "open" relationship (of course this would mean he would have to be able to become sexual with others as well so jealousy may be an issue)?
Other than sexually, how is your relationship with your husband? I did go through a time with my wife in which I thought our only issue was not having sex or feelings of disinterest in sex with her. Turns out that was just a symptom of other underlying issues. Unfortunately, we didn't realize this until I cheated on her and had to deal with the fallout and rebuilding our relationship. I definitely do NOT recommend this way! It was a horrible experience that I deeply deeply regret. It is my one true regret in life.
So my suggestion to you is to ask yourself (and REALLY examine this question) "Is it JUST sex or is there a deeper issue with my husband and I?"
Hope this helps! and good luck with trying to figure things out!