My ex is butch...or I thought she was...come to find out she was struggling back and forth with the possibility of being transgender.

I'm not sure what information you are trying to get but I am on here because I am trying to get over my ex, so obviously I loved her and was attracted to her.

I know a lot of girls who actually prefer butch girls. It definitely is a type that I prefer but I also find myself attracted to the girly girls too (if they are strong, intelligent, fun and aggressive).

Are you speaking of like a stone butch? Like a woman who will only give in the intimacy department but not receive?

I have been with a butch woman, I have been with someone like me (what I consider a "tweener" meaning a bit of both lol) and I have been with femme gals. I dunno, I fit with almost anyone I think, I never had issue in any of those relationships as far as a "role".

If I am totally misunderstanding, let me know...it's quite possible i am lol

I know of a girl that only dates top surgery trans...Find what makes your clock tick and don't worry about what the label is. That's part of what 'coming out' is.... I had to admit that even though I don't mind boys, and rather quite like some of them...they just don't make that whistle blow.

Pbandjams: I guess when it comes to lesbian relationships I feel pretty much like a green horn. Ive only had two really serious relationships with ladies. One was a total top that took care of me and the other is more of a submissive femme.

I guess I just wanted a lesbians take on being with butch/transgendered ladies. I personally identify as gender blind/pansexual and even trans at times, so I thought maybe being with someone who defied normal roles in the lesbian world would help me feel more accepted because lately I havent been finding acceptance from those that Ive been with.

Babaqtfoi: I had to look up what a stone butch was lol. And no, I dont think you misunderstood me.

I would like to be with someone that could accept me giving to them, but I would like a partner that is more active in identifying my needs and meeting them. I do feel very inexperienced in the lesbian dating world so Im trying to find myself. I was with a platinum lesbian most recently and felt very alienated/unequal in the relationship on a sexual identity level.

If I ever were to be with a stone butch, which I suppose the first gal I was with is kinda like that, I would be okay with that most of the time but would feel a bit saddened that I couldn't give my partner intimate moments. But all relationships require compromise. :)

MacNchez: I wouldnt specifically target a butch/trans person, but I have been questioning whether or not it would be a good type of person to find if I were to try things with a woman again.

Like you, I dont mind guys but its really hard for me to get close to them due to issues from my past. The idea of being with a more masculine lady is appealing to me because theres no fear attached to them (where with men there is), thus why I am wondering if it is something I should consider.