Jealousy Support Group
Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...
My boyfriend has a female friend who he's known for several years before he's met me so they are very close. I feel very left out because they have so many things in common and we are pretty much literally on opposite spectrums. They RP together(like Star Wars, etc.), stuff like that :/ He'll even go to her for advice about problems that he should probably talk to me about... I know it shouldn't matter, but when I hear small things like one of friends say like "oh, then we can eskimo brothers then" a term referring to when two guys sleep with the same person and this conversation referring to my boyfriend saying that our friend should hook up with said female friend, wigs me out cause then it makes my mind wander to what did they exactly do in that allotted time that they've known each other? It worries me cause I know he visits her every once in a blue moon in Chicago. I've actually taken up practicing Budhism because my insecurities have begun taking such a tole on me emotionally that it's affecting my life. I've even blocked her on FB so I'll stop looking at her profile.
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88FWhat I do like is early morning clouds and then they disappear and the sun comes out. That was it's cooler in the morning. I'm sitting here looking out the window at the hummingbird with the river and dike as a back drop. It's hard to invision ever leaving but I'm also a realist with aging, especially when the luncheon we had with thirty former classmates on Monday. Sandra, we get news of...
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89FToday it is again another hot day but cooler then yesterday. Since this is August it is to be expected in my neck of the woods. All the grass is yellow and flowers are starting to go to seed. I need to water my garden but this time of the year I'm so over it, which is weird because all my plants have their fruit or veggies.Sandra, this time of year reminds me of your Dad and his toms. We'd...
Does this mean you have something to worry about? Probably not right now. But if at anytime this girl decides to be with him, he will fuck her. Sorry to say. You are a better person than I am because my jealousy is so severe that I am unable to even consider dating a man with close female friends. I could never have my bf having an intimate conversations with another female. It would kill me. And I would try to destroy it as best I could.
I dont agree that every single guy wants to screw his female friend, that might be true for some men but not all.
Some guys happen to just like female company because they dont have to put on that masculine he-man persona that they have to have with a guy.
Maybe they had a history once, but then it obviously it didn't work as they would be together now in a relationship, instead he's with you.
He probably goes to her for advice simply out of habit and because he's known her longer.
and to visit a female friend in another town without you...i wouldn't like that a bit.
I'm sorry...its OK to be protect the relationship and be given more respect and sharing and intimacy...you have to be the closer friend.
thats my opinion. sending you wishes. hope things work out for you.
"Some guys happen to just like female company because they don't have to put on that masculine he-man persona that they have to have with a guy."
That same guy would still fuck that friend if she gave him the green light.
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Crossing i know youve been hurt so bad in the past and if were you and had your experiences then i would be thinking as you do.
I was once told my thinking was very black and white and i couldn't see it and didn't know what they meant, but since i had counseling its all become very clear or should i say grey.
You are what i used to be like and i wish i could get you to see the grey, i also wish you could meet some genuine men, they are out there.
rain, if he's only with you because its just sexual attraction, what happens when that subsides?
I wouldn't want to be with someone just out of a sexual attraction, there would have to be a mutual friendship for the relationship to last, and i'm talking from experience, a 32 year one.
I'm sorry but where do you get that I've had so many bad experiences and been hurt so bad in the past?? You are making quite the assumptions there. My viewpoints have nothing to do with having bad experiences. My viewpoints from my biology and nature. It is NATURAL for the male to be the hunters and go after their prey, women. It is survival instinct to go after women that you want to breed with and skip the ones you don't. It's BIOLOGY.
You have NO idea who I have dated and are making assumptions that I am dated so many horrible men that hurt me so bad in the past which is actually FAR from the truth. I have dated all kinds of men. It is my own issues from childhood from watching my parents that made me the jealous person I am today. NOT dating men who treated me like shit.
Lets face it.. we only have what we read to go on, we dont know anyone on here fully when trying to help them out.
sorry rain, didnt mean to get into a "discussion" on your thread, why dont you try and have a bit of a heart to heart with your guy, maybe he can explain where his head is at and put your mind at rest.