Jealousy Support Group

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...

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changes2083
changes2083

Hello everyone, 


I am new to this site, and hopefully I can find some people to commiserate with. I am currently in a long distance relationship. I care for my partner very much but I've had a problem with him keeping in contact with his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend on social media. I have tried to not let it get to me. However, I check out his posts from time to time, and sure enough I see one of them liking his posts. Sometimes even both exe's like his post. Again, I know it is social media but I wonder how others feel about this?



This definetly adds to my insecurities. I just don't understand how they can remain friends after the divorce? They do not have kids together, and they don't have property together. Quite frankly no reason to remain in contact with eachother ESPECIALLY when she cheated on him and that is what prompted the divorce. 


Any advice will be greatly appreciated! 

Kabby
Kabby
Hi, when my husband and I were dating we decided that we would have no type of contact with exes or people we liked. We have kept our word and when some ex friend requests I tell him about it and that I did not accept nor talk to them. He has no social media so that's helpful. I only have instagram and I am open about it with him. Nothing to hide. Have you tried talking to him about it?
changes2083
changes2083
Hi Kabby,

Thanks for the reply!
Yes, I have tried talking to him. It doesn't even phase him. He seems indifferent to my concerns/insecurities. I guess it is confirmation for me that this is not going to work out.
headsamess
headsamess
I have really bad jealousy, I’ve always been screwed over in relationships. They’ve always wondered off with other people, spoke to other guys via social media. My new girlfriends nothing like that but I can’t help but think that’s all that’s going to happen. Sometimes you’ve just got look at what you have and fight your mind and thoughts. That’s normally just what they are, thoughts. It’s all in our heads most of the time and we just make these problems more apparent because of previous experiences. Always talk about your problems if you have any with whatever it may be, I need to listen to my own advice as I have a lot of problems with it. Just try to ignore what your mind says and remember how lucky you are to be with this person and how much they love you and trust you.