Jealousy Support Group

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. This rival may or may not know that he or she is perceived as a threat. If you or a loved one may have an issue with jealousy, this community is a good place to start exploring the issue and get support. We're here for...

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Rivasllene 01/12/2010

I know I am making some headway in decreasing the jealous way of thinking, but I also know there is so much more to be done. I realize that I'm most likely in for a lifelong struggle because no matter how much progress is made, there are always going to be these little things that pass through the filter. I'm not trying to be discouraging to anyone else, just realistic in my own goals, knowing that when these moments happen the battle in my mind rages on. Sometimes I win and sometimes i give in to what the jealousy is whispering in my ear.
None the less, i really hope i can do it for the sake of those around me, for the people i care about whom i hurt with my words. I just CAN'T seem to remember that really, it's all in my head!
Why does this thing, this evil side of me want to make others suffer alongside me?? I feel like one of the worst people in the world, always trapped between feeling angry and thankful, guilty and spiteful....AAAARRRGGGHH!!!!

deleted_user 01/12/2010

Riva, are you receiving any kind of counselling to help you? Going it alone with such strong emotions is never going to be easy!
Im getting help but the jealousy is just a symptom of other problems ive dealt with, my jealousy is overwhelming but yet my psychologist doesnt even talk about that, we are not dealing with that at all. It seems the symptoms of jealousy will ease when im healed in other areas!....Just a thought, but IF you are the same way then there could be a way to improve all aspects of your life if you see someone who is trained to help!

deleted_user 01/12/2010

completly- do you mind sharing what other issues you have that jealousy is the symtom? That is really a good point. Just maybe the jealousy is a symptom for me as well, but what is the issue behind it? I don't know!

Rivasllene 01/12/2010

yes, of course there are issues from where it stems. most obviously self esteem issues and abandonment issues. you are right to say i need to focus on these other problems as well, which is what i want to work on this year. i have tried counseling a couple of times in the past but at the time it was only a temporary fix. it is my understanding that issues this serious will take a lifetime of evaluation and counseling to fix. i just don't have the financial resources to continue this sort of care. I really wish i had the time and money to be able to effectively do this, but realistically i don't.

deleted_user 01/12/2010

drowning, i sent you a message, hope it explains in some way x

mandakasravi 01/12/2010

"I know I am making some headway in decreasing the jealous way of thinking"

Every step in the journey to recovery helps...I just want to say well done for the progress you are making.

Rivasllene 01/13/2010

thanks for your support, manda. i just really needed to vent. today was a better day, thankfully :)

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