I have the same issue most times. I’m pretty sure mine stems from our sex life being almost nonexistent lately though. Are you and your partner also having bedroom issues?

Hi, thanks for the response! I’m sorry you’re having a similar issue. It’s hell for me! I’d say our sex life is very healthy. There are times where my PTSD gets in the way, but he’s extremely supportive and we work through it. I have a hard time being intimate though, after we’ve watched a movie with nude sex scenes. :/

I'm having the exact same feelings. Every single TV show and movie we've watch in the last month has an extreme amount of female nudity and sex and I feel myself shut off to my boyfriend completely and I don't want him to touch me or look at me it makes me want to cry and like run away. I don't know how to deal with these feelings. I feel like he wants to be with all these women and and when he makes comments on the different girls he likes I find myself resenting him and hating him and not wanting to be with anyone. What should I do? I'm basically feeling like I don't want to watch tv with him anymore because I can't handle my feelings. What do I do with this?

Ksadler, you took the words right out of my mouth! I literally could have written that. My boyfriend doesn’t comment on other females, I made that clear from early on I felt that was disrespectful. I have actually made some progress on this issue the past few days.
I talked with my boyfriend. I told him all these feelings. I said that I felt like these sex scenes, and huge amounts of female nudity, were basically like soft porn. Just because the media/film industry decides to put this in a movie (which what....doesn’t make it like porn?!...no, it is) I have to be ok with it? I told him I wasn’t. I said it literally breaks my heart to think that he would be getting any kind of satisfaction off another woman’s body. It just wasn’t right to me....it’s not what I want in my relationship. I don’t look at other naked me. So I said “all I ask is that you be mindful of what you’re watching and if there’s nudity, just skip that scene”. He was like, “ok, that’s totally doable! There’s been movies I haven’t watched because there was nudity in them, but I can do that. And if I want to watch anything I think is bothersome, I’ll talk to you first and see if you want to watch it with me”
Now, we have had a few deep conversations about my feelings around nudity, porn, and my feelings about the sexual objectification of women. So he knows my thoughts, feelings, wants, and needs very well. The entire time he has been very supportive, don’t get me wrong, he wasn’t restricting his viewing in any way before we got together or even in the beginning. It took me saying how I felt and WORKING for a compromise. I emphasize work, because it hasn’t been easy. It’s been very frustrating for him. My boyfriend is an avid movie watcher (bungee, I’d say haha) and he very much likes his independence and doesn’t like being “told what to do”. I had to take the approach of ‘this is how I feel, these are my boundaries, and this is what I need’. And remind him, it’s not about controlling him, that’s not what I want. I don’t want to feel this way either, but I need his respect and support through this.
I know this is a lot, and it would be easier said than written, but I hope it provides some help? And please, please, please, talk to me on here about this issue! I’ve struggled with it since I was 15 in EVERY relationship. I know WHY I feel this way, but I can’t make it go away. I can’t just be ‘ok’ with my boyfriend watching other naked women. And I think...that’s understandable. And that’s my boundary.

I don’t look at other naked men* and he’s a binger* when it comes to movie watching. Lol

Also, I had talked two 3 different therapists about this issue since I was 19...it helped slightly. The real work came from actually discussing the issue with my partner. After all, that’s who it involves and who could work with me.

Jill I hope you didn’t give up. I think you and I can really help each other!

I have not! :)We had another discussion last night and the night before. It’s not easy though!!
What’s your experience?

I am so sorry that anyone has to go through this...Please dont laugh but I am jealous of a game that my husband plays online..something called ESO (I think). Every night like clockwork at exactly 8pm he pushes that little green button and plays but he never wears the headset when I am around...When he does after I am gone to bed for the night I can hear laughing, joking among things...He knows how much I hate that game and I told him that one day I just may snap and take a hammer to it.....

Also our sex life is NON EXISTENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi km78babygirl. I would never laugh! I don’t know of that game. What is it about it that you don’t like? Also, I’m sorry about your sex life, that never makes situations like this easier

I would feel really uncomfortable because if my husband loves me and is happy with what he has why look at anything else
However some couples find watching porn together helps their sex life in my opinion is just a way to help fantasize about someone else I don’t find it helpful at all

Thank you mairbug for your opinion (and validation)! I have come to the point where I accept, and longer feel that something is wrong with me, that I don’t want my boyfriend watching nudity. It works for some people, but not for all. We have had very lengthy conversations about it and he understands how I feel (the best he can) and respects that I don’t want it in our relationship. I feel very freed and lucky to have someone who is willing to compromise and consider my feelings.

I also feel some type of way when there are sex/nudity scenes on tv. I think it’s a combination of a few things though. One it’s just plan awkward. Plus, I think some or a lot of it stems from my insecurities with myself and my physical self. I mean tv makes women looks like 10s all day when in reality most of the world does not have physical bodies like what you see on tv and movies. I mean why don’t they use all shapes and sizes. It sets other people up for disaster. We feel the need to look more like this.

Hi chicktown! Thanks for the understanding and validation. I couldn’t agree with you more. I asked my boyfriend “when have you seen a nude & or sex scene with a woman over 120lb?” He’s like “never”. I said “exactly, unless is was being made fun of, comical, or gross”.