hello
join the club...many of us feel this way and its helpful to notice that its common among many people...so one is not alone recovering from patterns of thinking that involves comparing oneself to others and being hurtful.
for some reason i often assumed men did not have much issues around looks...either way
moving towards acceptance and love for oneself is a valuable endeavour
if/when we could love our own selves no matter what...how freeing it would be

Well personally I don't have people in my life because of how they look, I have them in my life because of how they treat me.

Character is everything, not looks, sorry just my point of view.

I actually got an email from this site I go to about low self esteem, and what hit me was, the tapes I was playing over and over again in my head of what "other" people thought of me. It was like a revelation went off in my head.

Your not what others say you are, You are who you say you are. Keep that in mind.

No need to be jealous. Take it from one of those good looking guys you are referring to. We have our issues too. I'm insanely jealous of my girlfriend's male friends. I am constantly comparing myself to them and feeling like I don't quite stack up. In short it happens to everyone.

So sorry you are feeling down about this. Just last night I spoke to my husband about this very thing. He ran up to kiss me after work, and I blew him off because I didn't feel confident about myself at the time. I asked him to give me a moment to pretty myself up. When I was done and ready to be close, he asked why I turned him away. I explained to him how inadequate I feel compared to the women on TV and someone he works with.. He tried his best to reassure me, but underneath I will always have this fear of losing his interest to these other women. I have never been considered an ugly person to others.. Everyone in his family can't believe he has such a beautiful wife. But when I was younger I was always told: "You are so gorgeous and can have anyone you want but you should lose weight. No man wants to be with a fat girl." So now all I see when I look in the mirror is a girl who needs to lose some weight, and dress sexier to keep a mans interest. Deep down I know I can't keep comparing myself to these other women who look perfect all the damn time! Cause that's insane. But my lack of self esteem makes me obsess on other girls and what my husband thinks of them. It's miserable.

So I'm in a similar boat. I know I'm not ugly, but I do compare myself to everyone for fear of losing my husbands attention.

I'm going to follow this and see what people advise. Cause obsessing isn't healthy and neither is the feeling of being less than others.