Who knows why any of us are attracted to the people we are. I think that is just one of those things you have to accept as a part of who you are, like preferring scrambled eggs to over easy. Some people will not approve of who you chose but it's none of their business and that includes your family. Of course as long as your living at home and they are paying the bills they do have some say in who you see but none in who you are attracted to and that's a hard pill for some parents to swallow.
It is hard to tell from your post just what problems you need help with. But maintaining a relationship by long distance has never been easy and all but a few end up dying because of that distance. You say he lives in another state but how far away is that? How often do you actualy get to see each other and spend time together?
What are you guys fighting about? If it's just petty stuff then I'd say there is something more going on, like someone wanting to end the relationship but not knowing how to do it. If it's real important stuff then you need to look into your heart and decide what you can give on and what can't be changed and let him know without the fighting. All fighting does is get your emotions involved and no one makes good decisions when they are upset and angry.

Well we are all part of one race, it is silly to divide the human race into racist groups. I don't mean going all the way back to Adam, but even as near as Noah we all came from Noah. The only real divide comes from where you sit spiritually. If you have the same faith, your chances are altogether better. Now I am not so ignorant as not to understand that there is racism in every culture. Oh we don't label it as such, but I could tell there were some cold shoulders when I brought home my brown Pakistani wife. This, even though she was Christian, and not only from the white community, but equal racism from the Indian/Pakistani Christian community. You are attracted to white men, that's all outward, but there is more that you will want once you get to know the man. I mean there are things you want to share together and enjoy together, if you have different beliefs or ideologies, this will be most difficult to overcome. From the Christian perspective, I married a Christian woman, and still there was kick back, but basically from the Christian perspective the Lord Himself commands us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Now after being happily married for 18 years I thank God, because marriage isn't easy with all the outside interference, not to mention dealing with our own shortcomings, it is a work of love, but work none the less. Well worth it to build one another up in my opinion through love.

I married an African from the Congo, and I don't care what people think or say. You must not listen, or see what others are telling you, just be yourself, and act like there is no problem; because if you go around looking hurt or guilty, people will pick up on it, and use it against you. Please go and check out Joel Osteen, on the web, just do a google seach for him, he is very inspirational and can help you with this problem. Beleive in yourself, God will give you everything you wish for, so be careful what you wish for, it is that powerful.
By showing strength and standing tall, people will know instantly you don't care what they think, try it and pray to God for support.

Blessings
Camilla
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Danni, we all have preferences...I tend to like tall men, and find darker-skinned men attractive, and although I am white married a black man. The most important thing, however, is not our skin colors, but that we share the same values, goals and dreams in life. We enjoy each other, and appreciate each other as people. One day you will marry someone and you will both grow old and your looks will fade...what is most important is what you have on the inside.

That said, girl, you are only 16! Lighten up and don't take this too seriously. I hate to break it to you, but most likely you will date many more people before you ultimately settle down. Now is the time to learn who YOU are, to get to know YOURSELF, so that one day you can choose a mate that is really compatible!

If you enjoy the relationship and it is helping you grow, stay with it. If not, just let it go and move on...there are millions of fish in the sea, so they say...and one day you will be ready to commit yourself to the right person.

And when you do, it won't matter one bit what color his skin is.

thanx all for answering. i took time to realize and see that each of you are right. thanx for the comments. :)