Interracial Relationships Support Group
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Hi everyone,
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, and we have been living together for a year and a half. Everything has been great, we have fun, travel, and manage our finances cooperatively. I'm 25 and my bf is 23. My dad has recently started being cordial with my boyfriend, but he still "knows there is someone else out there for me" sometimes his words get to me, this is the only serious relationship I have been in. But everything goes so smoothly with him, why would I fix what isn't broken?
Anyway, we have been talking a lot about getting married and starting a family. I really want to, but I don't want it to ruin the progress I have made with my family.
So when is too soon? "Screw them and do what you want" isn't an answer for me.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, and we have been living together for a year and a half. Everything has been great, we have fun, travel, and manage our finances cooperatively. I'm 25 and my bf is 23. My dad has recently started being cordial with my boyfriend, but he still "knows there is someone else out there for me" sometimes his words get to me, this is the only serious relationship I have been in. But everything goes so smoothly with him, why would I fix what isn't broken?
Anyway, we have been talking a lot about getting married and starting a family. I really want to, but I don't want it to ruin the progress I have made with my family.
So when is too soon? "Screw them and do what you want" isn't an answer for me.
I can understand that you don't want to ruin the progress made, but 10 years down the line you don't want to have regrets that you didn't marry the man that you love all because you wanted to please your family
I cannot begin to understand the frustration you must feel with making this decision. My offer of advice is to have an honest talk with your father, since he appears to be a big part of your life. I would have a heart-to-heart with him regarding the other man you love - your boyfriend - and share the positives about him. Perhaps he is just focusing on the negatives, and sharing what makes his little girl happy could be just the thing to open his eyes to your boyfriend. Before doing this though, I would be sure that you and your boyfriend are ready for such a commitment. It may even get worse with your family before it gets better - so knowing that you both are in it for the long haul, I personally feel is just as critical as talking with your father.
I wish you the best no matter what you decide to do,
With love,
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With love,
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Good luck!