It is often disarming when a person who has previously been able to keep you hanging on a string no matter what he did to you is suddenly finding himself being dissed. He counts on you to be waiting with baited breath for his next text, phone call, etc. I don't know whether this guy is a narcissist, but it is common among those who are to behave this way. Regardless, he's self-centered in a most serious way, and regardless of whether he wants to be with you or not, he wants you to want him to be with you. It's a head game. The only way to make it stop is to stop playing. You can't claim no contact and then both allow him to contact you (which you do by not having him blocked or changing your number) and ultimately contacting him back. Who gives a crap how many times he texts you? You don't have to respond. Block him or change your number.

Sending support! You can do this!!!

It's similar to gaslighting. He is messing with you, a head game. He is not thinking about you or what he did, he is simply wanting you to keep hanging on attempting to make you feel as lousy as he does but his is guilt and the me complex, he thinks by doing this to you you will feel sorry for him. For instance if you were to wipe the slate clean and forgave and forgot everything he did to you the situation would be the same, all about him. Can you remember times in your past with him where you knew it was all about him and you ignored your feelings and wants?

So he said he is done? If that was the case then he would be done! He thinks you need him in your life regardless, but telling you he is done means he is done temporarily, dangling a line in front of you only because he thinks you are so torn up from him he is doing you a favor. Narcissist in capitol letters, it's probably stamped on his forehead, you just may have not seen it before.

He's keeping the door open. If I, was you, I'd slam it shut.

He is a serial cheater-he's not going to change. Why would you want to continue with someone who keeps disrespecting you. You would never be able to trust him-what kind of example are you setting for your daughter. She'll grow up thinking this is how a normal relationship is-AND IT"S NOT! Don't let him steal any more of your precious time-he has taken enough already.

Concentrate on being a good mother and role model for now.

You can do better then him-you deserve better then him.

Sending you support!

Mine does the same thing. He called me last night to tell how much he still love me and yet he is staying with her. He told me that he still wanted to spend his life with me & the kids. He told me he only stay with her because of the business they are having. I don't believe him any more. I stop calling him now. One thing I found that I am very lucky to have lot of friends around me to support me. We will do better & we will find someone really love us. We can do this together!

It's just a head game...feel free to leave the game board.

I would.

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IGNORE THE CRAPOLA OUTTA HIM. He's SLOWLY but SURELY trying to SLITHER HIS WAY BACK IN. I wouldn't respond to anything he says or does. I bet he's sick now that it's over and he NOW sees what he HAD. If you decide to take him back...don't do it for a very very very long time. His problem not yours...i wouldn't care the least. Checking up on you and the kids should have been what he was doing when he claimed to be committed to you. What freaking good is it now that he's on the outs? They think they are sooooo slick. Don't fall for it honey and don't let him work his way under your skin.

I'm such a bitch ..but if it were me the very last text he would receive would be me telling him I'm contemplating sleeping with his SEXIST PUT TOGETHER FRIEND....PIG!!!

There has been so much that has happened since this post. He owes a chick about $1000 and everytime we split up she starts harrassin him. We I made the mistake on changing my relationship status on facebook to single and she started harassing him so now its all my fault and I have something to do with it. HE says everytime we split up she starts her crap with him which is true but its not because of me. She knows how he is and that he is a player so I guess she thinks since he has messed up a good thing why not mess with him. I guess she was harassing him pretty bad and since he says I can't stop it he has now blocked my number and I can't even call him. WTF?

Seems like he has a good habit of blaming you for all the shit in his life...you know, the shit he created?

HE owes someone money. Not you.

HE told you that he wanted to die because of you, so you cut it off and changed your status on FB and now he's getting shit for it and it's your fault.

Yeah right...

If you do contact him, it's wrong. If you don't contact him, it's wrong.

I would not contact him at all.

What? Is he two?

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I know he came out a couple of weekend ago and we had sex and then I asked him now what and he said I knew I should of came out b/c I knew you were going to start to pressure me again. I said I know your right I probably should of just brought someone home from the bar. He got pissed. But not sure what he expects. I am pretty sure he thinks its me harassing him no matter what I tell him he won't believe me

He's just driving you nuts and doesn't seem like he's worth it. All he wants to do it point fingers at you and blame you for all of his problems. Screw that...

My opinion only...

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