I just recently posted about how hard the divorce trail is....but if the infidelity is CONTINUED, then I would choose divorce any day of the week!

Though divorce can be cruel, there is at least hope that you will find someone to treat you with love and respect eventually.

thanks 4 that. im waiting 4 the breakthrough. still hurts just the same.

Hands down...living with continued infidelity is the worst. Much worse than divorce.

Sending you support, L~

No way around it, living with infidelity is absolutely worse.

living with infidelity is worse

I opted for divorce, and attempted to reconcile after ONE EA? Hell to the no I wouldn't have been hanging around for continuous infidelity. Thinking about how much it hurt just the once (that I know of)...I wouldn't let myself stay around to get screwed over time and again.

Living with continued infidelity

I don't know.. I am in the process of deciding and both look like the worst possible option..
I think if i have the strength to get out and divorce there may be light at the end of the tunnel.. but right now all I see is dark.

You're going to be in a dark place at times, whether you stay to work on it, or decided to divorce. Each decision is difficult and takes work in different ways. Deciding to divorce isn't like flipping on a light switch and saying, "Whew, everything is normal now! We signed papers!
If you're in a dark place right now, then now is not the time to make heavy decisions. Choosing to stay in your marriage takes time, patience, and strength just like choosing to divorce needs to be done with a clear head, direction, and srength. When the dust settles, and if you're currently in a situation where you are repeatedly being cheated on, look at steps you needs to take, either way. You will know when you're done, just like you will know if you want to stay or not.

looks like hell in either direction. i guess when ur in the middle of the ocean, u just gotta pick a direction and keep on paddling, and which ever way u go, prey u find some land eventually. of course, helps to have a compass, but u know, thats not one of the things i've found yet.

nikki

Both are bad, but which will lead you to happiness in the long-term?

Imagine where you'll be in 5 years on each path.

5 yrs.....if i stay i'd have 2 change. infidelity wld have 2 become something thats ok.b/c if its not then i'd be enveloped by despair constantly. i haven't mastered how 2 ignore something like that. and 2 stay i'd have 2 accept it and b ok. how do i do that?

so leaving....i cld become happily single, i cld heal (definately heal), and then perhaps meet someone who shares my view of monogamy and emotional truth etc.

if i leave i dont have to change who i am at my core
if i stay i wouldn't recognize myself