I wasn't married, but I still kinda drop my jaw and shake my head when I remember how he called me up and told me he had a date that night, and then got angry that I was upset about it, saying, "see?! You're always arguing with me!" I wasn't supposed to argue about him suddenly creating an open relationship?

*Sigh*. June 10th is the 2 year anniversary of that oh so wonderful night.

He left a laptop with me and said I could use it when my computer was dying. On that laptop I found their pictures from Trinidad. That was the reason I couldn't visit him. As I looked at their pictures he was wearing a wedding band. Something he said he would never wear and that really, really pissed me off. Along with the fact our money bought her a parrot and cage. He married her and forgot to tell me.

What pissed me off was how could he after all I did for him and how I put up with his backward and narcissistic parents! He was a spoiled brat who never worked a day in his life and I brought home the bacon and gave him money when he needed it and how dare he do this after all the sacrifices I made for the sake of our family.

Forgot to add, not only was he slowly siphoning off my money to pay for his mistress. After a major health crisis, his mistress decided that she needed security so she enticed my idiot husband to steal my money which he did. Thank goodness I had an account where he did not have access to which saved me and my kids from financial ruin.

What really pissed me off?

The level of deciet. The amount of work he put into keeping this affair. The effort he had to put into having her and lying to me about it all.

Yeah...L~

My hubby was having a internet affair and belive me it feels the same as any other affair.What made me angry??(seen pictures of her on computer) im sorry to say the state of the other woman and the way he was about her.Hubby wasnt the only one she was married and it turned out she had 9 other men she was messing with.I hit the roof when i was crying and said to him just look at state of her to which he replyed.At least she was there for me and to talk to.Like i wasnt but of course i was that was just a excuse!!!

I have to add he didnt leave and after 3 years we are finally through the other side.!!!! and still together!

That the girl was supposedly a friend of mine, and I do mean girl, she was 18, at the time, and she used to call me "mom" before that. Girls like that piss me off because you know they don't have any guilt about it, and my daughter is still friends with her. yuck!

All of it. Who it was (our neighbor/my friend), the fact that she was also married so he destroyed 2 families, the lies, the audacity, the blameshifting, the gaslighting, the way he pushed our kids into accepting his adulterous relationship, the way he thought he could toss me aside and leave with her and all the money, the smug attitude...EVERYTHING! I feel like it all hit me all at once.

An answer from a guy who's wife cheated: the first thing that pissed me off was her callous confession, "I wanted to fuck him but he turned me down". Painful to hear.
The next thing was looking back at her lying denials before d-day and the fridged look on her face.
Hearing all of the details, like that she wore her wedding ring and engagement ring to meet the guy. How she jeopardized her marriage & family over something so stupid.
The next thing was that when she went to rehab to "get better", she had another affair. Gee, thanks for appreciating me sticking by you". Some people are just sick and you can't make sense of it!
Lots of pain following that.

I caught my ex red-handed. Not only did he initially try and run from me (so foolish) but when he finally did stop and approach me I told him to come home and get his things, we were DONE! (This after a 25 year marriage). Did he come home, with his tail between his legs, and retrieve his life's belongings? Nooooooooooo - he waited 8 hours (he actually had the audacity to GO to the football game with her and stay through it) then returned home, to not say a word to me except, "can I have a tv?" , and he gathered up his clothing in plastic grocery bags and walked out the door. He did not take one photo of his children, his home, his youth, not one personal belonging. Talk about a cold, callous son-of-a-bitch.... I knew the minute he walked out the door that my life could only get better....

I felt most angry with myself for putting up with him and the horrible way he treated me for so long. He was mean and heartless to me at times when family should pull together -- he spent more money than he made and put me under tremendous pressure to make more and more money - and he stuck me with all of the household work in addition to taking care of our 2 small children and a more than full time job to pay for his stuff. It kills me to think of me being so tired and over worked - grocery shopping at 11 pm, working till 3 am, etc. because he did not help. And I stupidly took it all.

His year and a half + affair with my child's preschool teacher and all of the lies? Well - that was just another one thing in a long line disrespectful typical things you can expect out of a bunch of chromosomes like that. But me! I let it go on and did not stand up for myself and I did not leave him when I should have - that kicks my a$$. I am so much better off now.

I am angry that I cook his food, take care of the kids, go to work and so on. For him to have a carefree lifestyle (while I still have to live here with him) and I am just a roommate that does the real work.

grrrrr

Another bloke here.

I am still really pissed over the coldness and the indifference that she showed over my pain at the time.

Also pissed over the many public and private humiliations that I endured from her "just to keep the peace"

She has been gone now for nearly 3 years and I still have some very bad days, tho they are getting fewer and further apart.

Mick