Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Let's be honest people, forgiveness sucks and it is really hard after DDay! But I understand why some people are willing to forgive because ultimately that is a very honorable thing to do. My question is what is the point? Does anyone ever walk away thinking this will never ever happen again? Can you ever truly feel passionate about someone who had total disregard for your feelings even if it was just for a brief moment? I know I have only been coming to terms with my wife cheating on me for a few months, but I do not see a way I can ever completely and utterly trust her again. At the end of the day the act itself was bad but forgivable, but the idea of having such little respect for me and our marital bound, that one I am not sure I can get over.
That's not forgiveness, that's sticking your head in the sand. True, some people think that's what forgiveness means, but they are in error.
All it means is *you're* not going to punish them. They still need to deal with the natural consequences for both spouses. They still need to address the issues that brought them to that place.
Real forgiveness does not lead to pretending it didn't happen and everything is great. Real forgiveness frees both spouses to deal with the consequences, address the issues, and heal.
To paraphrase a quote:
Forgiveness. I don't think that word means what you think it means.