Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My H claims his affair was emotional and this woman started it by kissing him. I know this woman has been after him for years. H and I helped her and her kid out when she was homeless. Her son lived with us for a couple of months. All along tho she was telling ppl that she wanted H. She really never talked to me much and usually avoided me if she could and still does (if she is smart she will continue to do so :) anyway she was beaten by her last husband to the point of being hospitalized. Her H and my H know each other and grew up together. Her now XH hates my H with a passion now. I feel sure she threw my H name in his face too many times when they were drinking. Anyway after all that and her H went to jail my H thought he should check on her and her boy and this is when the affair started. She played him with her woe is me tactic like she had tried many times before but this time it worked because my H felt guilty for hooking her up with the man who beat her. I feel no pity for her as she has broken up several marriages and I am not sure ours will survive. My H claims it was touching and kissing and that it didn't last long but I know she has been after him for 4 years, ever since her son stayed here. I am perplexed as to how it was just emotional and didn't go further with the touching and kissing. I don't see how it could not have gotten physical. Anyway, is there such thing as an emotional affair? It is cheating regardless but I am just trying to think this through. Any thoughts on this?
Touching and kissing? Well what parts were being kissed and touched? Cheaters always minimize their actions and rarely tell you the full truth. Mine would call the OW a friend who he'd sometimes mess around with. And WTF does messing around entail?
We all know where touching and kissing eventually leads and regardless, in my world, engaging physically with another person IS having sex. You don't have to fuck to call it sex. I'm so tired of hearing, "well we didn't have sex, but we did everything else." WTF?
All the same emotions and desires are there whether you're having foreplay or full-on intercourse. And let's face it, guilty people lie.
It doesn't matter whether they were bitten by a viper or fell into the lioness's den, they had a choice to withdraw instead of engage, and that's what differentiates the men from the boys, and the loyal husbands from the cheating liars.
Regarding the trust issue, I don't know how to answer that because even though I am trusting my H, I'm still on high alert, and probably will be for a long time coming.
Regarding her, you have every right to feel as you do. She's poisonous trash, and she and her boy must be disentangled from your life, completely, and H needs to recognize that. If he doesn't and he's forced to, or it remains unresolved, it'll come back to bite you.
You need to find a way of painting an historical picture of this injurious woman to him, in simple terms, so that he can understand and see what's going on. Sometimes H's are conveniently naive and can't see the forest for the trees. Add a tale of woe, a pair of tits, and a willing ass, and you have a dangerously provocative scenario.
I wish you strength and resolution.