Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Just need some input. My wife wants validation and acknowledgement for how much she has changed. I really am having a horrible time with this because she hasn't changed who she is just has changed what she was doing.
Do I tell her thanks for not being such a slut? That isn't coming from my cynical side either. It is really how I feel because again she isn't out every night, on her phone, on facebook, sneaking off but how do I tell her thank you for not cheating anymore. Am I expecting too much for her to be my wife. Do I give her a big kiss and say thank you for not sleeping with the last two men anymore and you are doing such a wonderful job at not dressing like a whore and showing your tits as much as you use too.
Do I tell her thank you for putting on 50 lbs since you cheated last and have let yourself go. I know how shitty that sounds but it is reality.
I have asked her to get back into individual counseling and her reply everytime is I am okay and have changed and I don't need counseling and always turns that back on me because if I don't need counseling then she doesn't either.
Do I tell her thanks for not being such a slut? That isn't coming from my cynical side either. It is really how I feel because again she isn't out every night, on her phone, on facebook, sneaking off but how do I tell her thank you for not cheating anymore. Am I expecting too much for her to be my wife. Do I give her a big kiss and say thank you for not sleeping with the last two men anymore and you are doing such a wonderful job at not dressing like a whore and showing your tits as much as you use too.
Do I tell her thank you for putting on 50 lbs since you cheated last and have let yourself go. I know how shitty that sounds but it is reality.
I have asked her to get back into individual counseling and her reply everytime is I am okay and have changed and I don't need counseling and always turns that back on me because if I don't need counseling then she doesn't either.
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
I think she's looking for some acknowledgement from you that you see that she's trying to turn it around. If her behavior has changed, how do you know that it's not because SHE has changed?
A little positive reinforcement couldn't hurt. Otherwise, she might just say F-It and give up.
G'luck.
Even though it is extremely hard for me, and sometimes I find myself thinking or even saying things like your talking about when she says she has "changed so much", I think or say "your right your not living a nasty secret life" or something like that and think how can I thank her for that. One thing maybe you can do, IF you believe she is not doing anything like that now (and you may never 100% truly trust or believe again but if your realist side is pretty sure) just tell yourself that you are thankful your not living a lie anymore and that maybe you can from that come up with some sort of positive reinforcement, even if just a little.