Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hi everyone,
Just a vent from me as I almost threw my coffee at the wall...twice!!
Still trying to stay strong and see this out although I'm bloody sick of trying at the moment. H. still motioning towards getting off the love site, but taking too long. Talked to him about it today and got assurance that it's happening. (Don't believe it till I see it). Then, much to my not surprise, caught his e mail to the site asking if there is an address for the site to send gifts to a few of the ladies he plans to keep in contact with off the site . Friendship only of course. I'm going to explode. Because none of these women speaks or reads english, I'm not sure how much correspondence there would be, and at this point I don't really give a damn. All this is compounded by the fact that we are moving and leaving the job we jointly do. I have to keep it together to do the move (in with our 2 sons who own a house). I can't concentrate on packing at all and just want to throw everything out.
I know I have this in my life because I chose to 180ish it and ride it through. It just defies my soul that I and our marriage mean so little. (I know I know....bless the N.) And......(because he doesn't know I know the details......he's planning a trip for our anniversary)!!! Jesus wept!!!!!!! I must think of a suitable anniversary gift for him.......the possibilities are endless....Feel free to make suggestions...This could be fun!!!!!! Seriously folks, please help me to laugh today..I really need it !!!
Just a vent from me as I almost threw my coffee at the wall...twice!!
Still trying to stay strong and see this out although I'm bloody sick of trying at the moment. H. still motioning towards getting off the love site, but taking too long. Talked to him about it today and got assurance that it's happening. (Don't believe it till I see it). Then, much to my not surprise, caught his e mail to the site asking if there is an address for the site to send gifts to a few of the ladies he plans to keep in contact with off the site . Friendship only of course. I'm going to explode. Because none of these women speaks or reads english, I'm not sure how much correspondence there would be, and at this point I don't really give a damn. All this is compounded by the fact that we are moving and leaving the job we jointly do. I have to keep it together to do the move (in with our 2 sons who own a house). I can't concentrate on packing at all and just want to throw everything out.
I know I have this in my life because I chose to 180ish it and ride it through. It just defies my soul that I and our marriage mean so little. (I know I know....bless the N.) And......(because he doesn't know I know the details......he's planning a trip for our anniversary)!!! Jesus wept!!!!!!! I must think of a suitable anniversary gift for him.......the possibilities are endless....Feel free to make suggestions...This could be fun!!!!!! Seriously folks, please help me to laugh today..I really need it !!!
Simple, right?
Gift ideas... toilet plunger. Tell him the shit he's trying to cram isn't goin'.
L~
He has to stop pure and simple. Promises won't do it. If you still have doubts, install a keylogger in his pc and find out for sure.
Good luck.
Oh, wait I know, the part he doesn't REALLY want to do.
Either he is in or out.
Sending you strength to make that call.
Have strength, we're all with you,
X
I agree, he can't have both. It's either the marriage or the inappropriate correspondance.
Hugs to you, stay strong!
I know there is no room in my marriage for these "others", even if they are thousands of miles away physically. The emotional contact is still right here in my face. You know how it can be.......hoping the lightbulb of "oh I guess I'd better stop if I value my wife" will light up. I guess for me it's a matter of "this is the last time period of giving this marriage a chance to turn around"., hating to give up on 30 years and call it a day. So that's why I'm still in it. I know I can't stay in it like this without the h's total committment.
Although not admirable, I'm not "there" just yet...but close. Sorry to "kick the can" and vent when you all have wise advice for me. I appreciate your comments which I do take to heart, as well as your "being there" when I can't speak to anyone about this as they just don't understand how hard this is to deal with. I don't post often as I do know what the "smart for me" answers are. I just have to be sure of my decision to give up on hope and throw all of it away, as damaged as "it all" is. Your patience is much apreciated.