Beauty, your reply made me LOL!!! You described the OW in our case to a tee!


I think it may be a subconscious control issue for some of these men. These women are so used and abused in life, they will gladly take any attention anyone passes down to them. Sometimes I am not sure if I feel sorry for her or hate her!

Alot of times the ow is less attractive. One time my mate and I were out dancing and I started to notice hime watching a woman behind me. She weighed about 75 more lbs than I do and wasn't that attractive. Most of the time when we go out I have been known to get attention from the opposite sex and am considered to be reasonably descent looking. He just liked that another woman was giving him attention and it didn't seem to matter what she looked like. If I am going to look around a room for anyone it WILL be a man who is better looking than what I have. I do believe that these women are easy targets because they try so hard to get attention from men. Weak men like attention from all women. I do think that there are alot of insecurities on both sides. I don't think that we'll ever understand why. I'm attractive, fun, creative in "other" ways and am very successful. I am a good cook,a family person. I try to keep the relationship alive in many ways but still haven't figured out what it is that SOME of these guys want. Do they like irresponsible drunks who sleep around with several guys a week and some cases a night? What are you looking for in a woman guys? I thought you liked sexy night clothes, faithful women and a person who loves you? Not found that so far. I really do want to hear from more men. What are you really thinking about women? What is it you need that a bar whore can give you or the cheating neighbor lady down the street? Where ever you might meet the ow, what is it that she is giving you that your partner isn't? AND did you check with your partner to see if they were feeling the same way? Maybe a little lonley, needed some attention you know. I love you or your beautiful or thank you for being you OR the big one, let's try something new????? Why-Why-Why?????wouldn't you ranther work on the relationship you have to make it what you want it to be. Cheaters are deluded souls who really believe that someone else can fulfill their every need. Try zipping up your pants and putting that energy where it needs to be, at home. Same goes for cheating women--don't make yourself be cheap to that married man or men in general. They are using you for a sperm bank and you are destroying your children's lives right along with your husband's life. How contemptable and weak are you???????????????? All over a little attention and sex that you probably won't be able to remember most of the time. Does it last longer with someone else? Don't think so. Let's not forget about the crotch rott diseases that you can bring home (both sides) Some of you don't have a vd--you could just be a carrier of one and pass it to your partner. Now, that's worth that 2 minute romp, isn't it??????????Where are all the men, you want us to know, start talking.

My description of the home-wrecking skank made me LOL too. I am at a point now where i can laugh at our situation at least.

Unfortunately I know her and she is nothing spectacular. Her inner ugliness shows through. Her soul is dark and marred and it shows on the outside. She has no confidence bc of things that happened to her in the past so she carries herself in an awful way. I don't feel sorry for her either, because she is older than me and she should have pulled herself out of her rut by now and owned up to being an adult and letting go of what happened to her in childhood.

I don't get why my hubby was attracted to her. He says he felt sorry for her, talked with her as a friend, and after a few drinks she was all over him and that's how it happened. He says he told her he couldn't do it but she persisted physically and he was too weak to resist. I don't get it.

The messed up thing is that I was pregnant with our second child at that time and we were restricted from having sex for many months due to bleeding. I guess that didn't help his physical situation, but I still think he could have held back.

well she was my best friend for 10 years....and looked like a tranny.....i wasn't worried because of this but......you introduce your boyfriend to a slut and you get what is expected....this wasn't the first time she did this to me but , the other time it was just some guy i was seeing and i didn't really care....this time i was 6 months pregnant.....and i thought that i was in a great relationship.....

I agree with jwhystle as well. Well that and apparently my stbx has a new found affinity for witch noses. LOL!

When I asked my H about her, he said she was a fat, ugly dog. I figured he was just saying that to make me feel better. I knew I would eventually meet the witch. As my healing progressed, I knew at some point I would not be able to heal any further without confronting her. I needed to move on but needed to put the past behind me. So I went to deal with it. I was pretty shocked when she answered the door. He told the truth. She is a fat ugly dog. Hence, his self-esteem issues. In his quest for healing, admits that he does not feel worthy of me. It goes on and on. He loves me but wasn't comfortable asking his wife and the mother of his children to do the things she would easily do. (Anal to name one thing). She too is married and has children. But she is butt ugly and I don't think the drunkest man in a bar at closing time would pick that up. The rolls, the fat, the ugly face, the aged ugly face. Easily could be eight years older than me, not eight years younger. H is in counseling as he has many issues and they start with depression. Its all in my profile. He has done all that he should do at this point and then some. I just hope it isn't too late. I do love him and believe this is where I want to be. But damn, it is very sick to think what he did with that fat ugly dog. Desperation is so evil.

The OW my stbx left me for was not very pretty but she has a good body. She works and when she gets home she goes to the health club for hours. Her kids are out of control because she only cares about herself and her body.

Unfortunately that was not my case. He had paid for escort service each time, total of 9 times he cheated on me. They were 25 years younger then me, beautiful bodies, very gorgeous, and young enough to be his daughters. The very first one was my age and he said they didn't click. Guess she reminded him of me. It is true that normally the OW does not look as good.

sld1, I am in the same boat.

The OW is much older than me but she is much thinner and that sort of bothers me.

Now I know that someday I'll be older and things may start to sag....but she has that horrible wrinkled turkey waddle neck thing going and a uni-brow!!

So anyway I feel although I'm a little more 'curvy' hehe I'm MUCH more beautiful =)

Yeah but Snooky if you think about it, when they are all become your age they'll need some kind of sling device to keep their crotches from dragging on the ground...just sayin'! LMAO! ;-p

LMFAO at joybean!!!! OMG that is funny!
I kind of look at it like others here do. Pretty on the outside maybe but the ugly on the inside goes all the way through to the bone. Nothing will ever change that. I would rather have a clear conscience and heart over looks any day of the week. Besides, external looks fade and no one can escape it. Pretty on the inside gets prettier the older you get. My opinion is everyone on this thread is simply knock out gorgeous in every way that counts!

There are a lot funny posts here! The song that came to MY mind was "THE DRUNKER I GET, THE BETTER YOU LOOK!"
I had only seen my ex's OW one time and it was right after he gave me the sob story that he was "unhappy" and that's why he was leaving our 23 year marriage. I had a little suspicion about this co-worker of his, but after I saw her that one time I thought, "NO WAY! Her ass is the size of Nebraska!" And I had just about starved myself for 30 years because he always told me that if I got fat, he was going to roll me out the door.
Well, fast forward to when I had absolute proof of his affair...Guess what? It WAS the homely, hard-looking, home-dyed frizzy haired co-worker with the ass the size of Nebraska!
From that day forward, I referred to her as "Sausage Patty" (because the day I saw her, she was stuffed into a drab little shirtwaist dress that, indeed, made her look like a stuffed sausage). When we finally got to divorce court (18 Months of Hell later) my attorney said to me, "I just hope I don't slip when I'm cross-examining her and call her Sausage Patty!"
The nickname stuck. And now SHE'S stuck with that lying, cheating coward I called my husband for almost 25 years.
As for me...I'm still slim and happy with a man who TRULY DESERVES MY LOVE AND ATTENTION!

There are a lot funny posts here! The song that came to MY mind was "THE DRUNKER I GET, THE BETTER YOU LOOK!"
I had only seen my ex's OW one time and it was right after he gave me the sob story that he was "unhappy" and that's why he was leaving our 23 year marriage. I had a little suspicion about this co-worker of his, but after I saw her that one time I thought, "NO WAY! Her ass is the size of Nebraska!" And I had just about starved myself for 30 years because he always told me that if I got fat, he was going to roll me out the door.
Well, fast forward to when I had absolute proof of his affair...Guess what? It WAS the homely, hard-looking, home-dyed frizzy haired co-worker with the ass the size of Nebraska!
From that day forward, I referred to her as "Sausage Patty" (because the day I saw her, she was stuffed into a drab little shirtwaist dress that, indeed, made her look like a stuffed sausage). When we finally got to divorce court (18 Months of Hell later) my attorney said to me, "I just hope I don't slip when I'm cross-examining her and call her Sausage Patty!"
The nickname stuck. And now SHE'S stuck with that lying, cheating coward I called my husband for almost 25 years.
As for me...I'm still slim and happy with a man who TRULY DESERVES MY LOVE AND ATTENTION!

Sorry about the double comment there...my Verizon Aircard temporarily had the hiccups.