Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
so my wife admitted a few weeks ago that she was not happy in our marriage and wanted to have an open marriage, ha ha, i said no its we are either married or we get a divorce. i suspected something but wasnt sure since she played words with friends and was always playing a game on her phone, anyhow, after she started taking the phone into the bathroom with her i investigated found out she was texting a guy from another state, on nov 28 my wife had gastric bypass, on nov 27 she admitted to me what was going on , she was texting and sexting with this person, from a neighboring state. anyhow we have since decided to divorce and she is suposedly moving out after christmas. now we have unlimited texting on our cell phone plan but only 700 minutes a month in talk on wednesday i get a text from my provider that we are at 50 percent of our minutes for the month, which is fine, our billing ends this coming wednesday, on thursday i get a text that says we are now at 75 percent of our usage. so i investigate and she is talking to another guy from this website she joined up with, so i tell her, we now have 140 minutes to last us for a week on the phones, if we go over its 45 cents a minute. todya i get another text saying we are over, by 41 minutes, i go on the bill online, and now i wanna kill somebody i cant take this crap with her and her stupidity
Yes, if she's going out the door anyway, time to take her off your phone plan, or cancel it all together and get your own individual plan. Make her pay for her own infidelity. While you're at it, make sure you set up your own bank account that she is not on, if you don't already have one, and divide the money accordingly. Otherwise, you could find it drained.
Get her off your plan ASAP.
Really sorry that you're going through this friend...I really don't get it. Do it the right way or don;t do it at all. Cheating/Lying is such a coward move. Good Luck
She should have undergone a psychological assessment prior to the gastric bypass surgery.
As her to make an appointment with that psychologist and touch base about what all is going on with her. It may just do her some good, because it sounds like she is starting to lose control.
In the meantime, cut off her phone and give her a phone allowance till the judge signs off on the terms of your divorce.
Who have out outed her affair to? It might be time to let her parents know gently that you love her and them, and that you hope to be the best ex-son in law you can be.
Ask her sister for help.
The goal is not to be vindictive, and don't get your hopes up too much, but sometime shining some sunshine on someone's behavior helps it die!
Any change in psych meds with the surgery? Did she go on or off any meds after the surgery? I might even contact her doc and leave a message about concern over erratic behavior. They will not talk with you because of HIPPA laws, but they will receive your message never the less.
She just sounds to me like something bipolar or manic has clicked in her post surgery.
She is obviously making her choices and she needs to know that she can deal with the effects of these choices