I would say stuck on herself. If she is all that and can have any man why does she need yours. Doesn't sound like she will give him another chance because if she is using "because he is Mexican" thing it is her way of getting out of it. As for PA people not liking when a white girl is with a Mexican, I don't know about anyonelse but I lived in PA for over 50 years and it is a state of may mixed races. My feeling is after being caught she is looking to get out. Good luck thougths are with you.

Sorry also should have said that remember looks are not everything that is just what an insecure person says. At one point or another all of us BS say that about ourselves.

So she didn't know he was involved with you uh?
I bet she drops him like a hot potato if she can have any man she wants! Yap I say she was stuck on herself.. And again just an excuse using the mexican with a white girl excuse, please this is 2012, not 1950...
I hate when they say we are crazy..... just another excuse to cheat...

First of all, I live in the Philadelphia area and I have never heard of there being some sort of Mexican bias (besides the usual bigots who will complain about anything...but no one of substance cares what they think anyway) in this state. The fact that the OW even said such a thing makes me think that while she had an affair with your H, she has some prejudice within herself that is causing her to think this way. I wouldn't take much stock into the opinion of an obviously self-centered, cheating, and most likely bigoted moron who is so clueless that they would actually tell the wife of her affair partner how beautiful she is. The fact that she goes on about her looks suggests a serious self-esteem issue.

Are you still with your H? It sounds as if he is bad mouthing you to her (they all do that during their affair but it's not as common after they are caught) and that is way out line. I'm sure you know that there's no chance of reconciliation if they are still in contact.

Affairs aren't about looks, they are about a fantasy and an escape from reality. Most would consider me very attractive (not trying to sound like the OW saying how good looking she is..really I'm not like that) and I literally wear the same size I wore in college and take very good care of myself. My looks had nothing to do with cheating on me, just as your looks aren't why your husband cheated on you. The OW in my case was really overweight, not pretty at all and didn't care take of herself physically. My H's own description of her is 'not real pretty and kind of fat." Of course, I told her that he said that and she was so mad. ha ha.

Like my H, your H cheated on you bc of a flaw within himself. It's really hard not to take it personally when your spouse cheats, but please try not to internalize it. It's a flaw in him and not you. Whether or not the OW is pretty or not is mostly irrelevant. People that are ugly on the inside might as well be ugly on the outside, too. In the long run, it's your character that counts. I've never been at a funeral where the eulogy consisted of 'well she was quite a looker but jeez...what an a*shole!"

My thoughts are with you. Best of luck to you.

I wouldn't even believe her. If she was so beautiful and actually believed it then she wouldn't be with a married man. By the way, from what I've seen and heard, the wife is usually a lot better looking than the OW. I wouldn't dare to call myself beautiful but the OW was a total troll. She sounds like a desperate head case with some major self esteem issues. As for your H, is he still in contact with the skank?

I agree with what Jackee said. My H told me right away that his OW was nowhere near as attractive as I am (I'm not bragging either, my H's words). He said she wasn't even in my league. Then I saw her FB picture and he was not lying! Here's the funny part. I found her Twitter account and she had tweeted something in response to Demi Moore's age and attractiveness and she tweeted something like this, "I know how you feel. I'm 41 and people think I'm 20! Women hate me!" I'm here to tell you that she most definitely DOES NOT look 20. She looks closer to 50, haggard and fat. If women hate her, it's because she's a whack job b_tch, not because they're jealous. So, she's either delusional or she's a liar...maybe both. Don't sweat what the OW says. If she's capable of having an A with a married man, then she's far from trustworthy.

Guys I am sorry but I left out he isn't my husband we have been together for 3.5 year and have lived together for 1. I live here in OK and he travels to PA & NY for work. He was there a couple of months ago and I guess that is when he met her. He just recently went back to PA and as she tells me they went out every night and even 1 night I was calling his room she told me she was there. He told her he hadn't been home in months but I told her he was with me before he left and I could tell her everything that was packed in his suitcase. She told me that she has not paid for anything and he has even bought her flowers. They have probably spent may 10days total together and she said he asked her if she loved him. She is going thru a divorce and was married for 18 years and she says she loved her husband but not in love with him and one reason why they are getting a divorce is b/c he was gone all the time just like my BF so why would she even give him the time of day.....

A truly beautiful woman has no need to brag. A woman who is beautiful deep down in her soul has no need to drag another person down to feel good about herself. This woman is bragging because she needs to hear it because she doesn't believe it herself. She may talk you down with him because she has to. She isn't beautiful on her own. She only feels "better" when she tears another down. She sounds like the skank my ex is with. Her beauty is only skin deep because her soul and her actions show the ugly underneath. And beauty fades for everyone. If all you have is the surface then what is there left when that is gone? Nothing.
She isn't beautiful in any way, shape or form. If she was she wouldn't be with your man and she wouldn't be bragging about how great she is. Ugly is a kind word for what she is.

I know a lot of not so pretty people that would describe themselves as gorgeous. Just ran into one the other day that said she does modeling and acting... Yeah right. Maybe for pornos. I wouldn't even worry about it. If she is the OW, then she is already on a high thinking that she won over you. If she were in your shoes, she'd have a lot less self esteem, as all of us BS's know.

(rolling eyes here)

With her own words, she showed herself to be one ugly woman. And prejudiced at that.

Sooooo, it doesn't matter how she looks.

If your H fell for this action...well, damn...(shaking head here...)

L~

Who is she trying to convince she is beautiful, herself?