Your friend should stay away from the situation until it is dead in the water between the other two, if that ever happens.

She is gonna get herself into a whole slew of trouble if she gets involved in any way.

Stay away!!!!!!
A bad marriage, no sex, my wife doesn't understand me...are all lines and are ONLY the cheating H point of view. If your friend really wants to know what is going on the wife is the one that will tell the truth.
My H told me and his whore he didn't love me, our marriage was over, he was unhappy and wasn't getting sex. Well the truth,

1. We were both unhappy, he was a selfish pig, a work-a-holic that spent most of his money on his toys while I struggled to take care of 99% of EVERYthing it took to run our home and struggled to pay the bills.

2. My H NEVER communicated with me. He never in 23 years told me he was unhappy. He never offered to do anything to fix or work on our marriage. He created how terrible our marriage was in his head after talking with his whore about how bad her marriage was. He had totally forgotten all the good-times and his marriage vows. He was giving him self permission to have the affair.

3. He wanted sex on demand with-out offering anything outside of the bedroom. No help with the kids, house..nothing. After I worked, spent hours doing housework, laundry, kids homework, he would scratch his butt and say "honey let's go to bed". Sorry bud not going to happen. BUT we were still having sex at least 4 times a week during his affair. He also told his whore we were not having sex. She told him she had moved into the spare bedroom and not sleeping with her husband.

Satistics say affair relationships don't usually work out. Ask your friend what she thinks true love is? Or is she just in lust with him. I would bet his feeling are just lust. My H also said he "thought he loved her". What could you love? It's a fantacy relationship. The world stops when they are together. Real relationships don't happen like that.

Your not going to find much simpathy here for your friend. Most of us have been distroyed by women like her. Ask her if she can look at herself in the mirrior each morning knowing she helpped distroy another women's life. Aks her what she will do when this man cheats on her??

There is never a right reason for being with a married person.

Correct. NOT a right reason. Who knows what is the truth in this man's marriage. She's getting HIS side of the story. She's in a fantasy. I'm going to say it...her man farts and poops and burps like the rest. He is NOT Prince Charming and she will see him for what he is if she ends up with him. Bless his heart, he's so caring and understanding. He's trying to take care of his poor, frigid wife even though she is wicked. He won't leave her unless she can take care of herself. CRAP! He is full of crap and your friend is buying it. She is naive and she needs to know the truth. These men will put themselves in the best light. She feeds his ego by stroking it, telling him how wonderful he is that he's being so caring about his wife. HE'S NOT CARING ABOUT HIS WIFE. It's a smokescreen. He's a rat.

But how do u tell somone that the man they are convinced that they are going to spend the rest of their life with that she needs to get out?

she thinks that the divorce is taking to long, maybe there is a reason for that ...it's not really going to happen. if she wants to protect her own heart than she needs to leave him alone until he comes and says that his divorce is final, and i would want proof, because she would really be hurt if she devotes any more time to this twisted relationship only to find that he and his wife decide to work it out for the 4th time. i dont care what anyone says IMHO it is never a good idea to get involved with someone who is still married, whether they are seperated or not. she just might find herself alone, because i am willing to bet you the things that he tells her, if she talked to his wife 95% of it is not true.

does he still live with his wife?

I would ask, "What is wrong with your friend that the only man she can find is already married? Under NO CIRCUMSTANCE does a decent person date a married man/woman.
The only one that would win out of this situation is the wife.She doesn't need a lying cheat like him.

Yes, he has moved into the basement. I have actually seen that he has moved his things to the basement. apparently, they are trying to sell the house, and he wants to help with it.

I don't think your friend is in a good place right now. How can she ever trust this man, knowing he was willing to cheat on his wife with her. How can she trust him when he's been playing her because he's not leaving his wife. Does she really know this man? He seems to lie a lot? How can she know what to believe? When she's his wife, will she ever be able to feel secure with him and actually trust him. My husband's OW thinks she really loves him too. That I'm just some awful crazy wife he has to "put up with" but the whole time he was lying to me and sleeping with her, he was also sleeping with me and putting her off. My husband is also not perfect no matter how he portrays himself. I've had a lot to "put up with" in him, possibly even more so, and I've never found adultery to be an acceptable way of dealing with the way I'm being treated. No matter how my husband tries to justify it, adultery is not an acceptable option for him or anyone.
It just gets people hurt, including the cheating partner and the mistress. I really think for your friends sake, that she should back off from the relationship until he's single and available. This is a very unstable and risky relationship for your friend to be devoting the rest of her life to.

My husband told the OW that we were in the process of divorce which was so not true, we were continuing to have a normal happy marriage. He told her we shared the house but that I stayed somewhere else sometimes, again so not true, we were having all normal married contact. The bottom line is that you don't ever know what is true when it comes to someone having an affair. And divorcing is still married!

My H was cheating for almost 2 yrs. Not once did he suggest a divorce to me however he told her he was "in the process of it the entire time he was seeing her." Bottom line: People who cheat lie. Affairs are primarily based on lies & betrayal. If you really care about this friend perhaps you might tell her to look at the facts. What's changed? Does his wife even know about her?

Your friend should stay away from him,,,He is still married.And Im sorry but there are no right reasons to get involved with someone who is already married...And the odds are after he leaves his wife and after he has been with your friend for a while,,,he will cheat on her too...maybe she should leave another womans husband alone and find someone else..

MOST AFFAIRS FOR MEN ARE FOR SEX AND TO BUILD UP THEIR EGO.
WOMEN ARE USUALLY MORE EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED.
MORE THAN LIKELY THIS GUY HAS NO INTENTION OF EVER LEAVING HIS WIFE....HE WANTS TO HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO....AND TRUST ME THERE IS NOTHING MAGICAL ABOUT THIS GUY-HE IS NO CATCH- IF HE EVER DID LEAVE HIS WIFE HIS FINANCES WILL BE CUT IN HALF OR MORE, HE WILL HAVE AN EX WIFE AND KIDS HANGING AROUND...THE KIDS AND MOST OF THE FAMILY WILL ALWAYS HATE YOUR FRIEND FOR BREAKING UP THE FAMILY-REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE SAYS YOUR FRIEND WILL ALWAYS BE VIEWED AS A HOMEWRECKER. AND IN THE END THIS 'CATCH' WILL END UP BEING ANOTHER SHLUB THAT SITS ON THE COUCH IN HIS BOXERS, WITH A REMOTE IN ONE HAND AND A BEER IN THE OTHER IGNORING YOUR FRIEND AND HER BABIES WHILE HE LOOKS ELSEWHERE FOR EXCITEMENT WITH ANOTHER WOMAN WHO DOESN'T REMIND HIM TO CUT THE GRASS OR TAKE OUT THE GARBAGE ETC.....
STATISTICALLY THAT IS A FACT VERY VERY FEW OF THESE AFFAIRS END UP AS A MARRIAGE AND OUT OF THOSE MOST DIVORCE BECAUSE THE TWO PEOPLE ONLY LOVE THE FANTASY OF EACH OTHER NOT THE REALITY. aND THE MARRIED PARTNER OFTEN SAYS THEY MISS THEIR SPOUSE AND DIDN'T REALIZE HOW GOOD THEY HAD IT UNTIL THEY GOT INVOLVED IN A 'REALITY BASED' RELATIONSHIP WITH THE AFFAIR PARTNER... SO ...GOOD LUCK TO YOUR FRIEND....
PS... I WONDER IF THE PREVIOUS ALMOST DIVORCES WERE OVER OTHER AFFAIRS? MORE THAN LIKELY YOUR FRIEND IS NOT SO SPECIAL AFTER ALL..HE'S PROBABLY DONE THIS BEFORE......

You're my girl..jersy.

You go! End of story!

-Jax

Direct her to the www.gloryb.com website and tell her to read there for a while. She'll see EXACTLY what she's in for as "The Other Woman". And if she thinks 6 months is a long time...well, she's see for herself.