Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
So, I know this is going to be a widely hated discussion. But, do u think there is any way the other woman could be in it for the right reasons. One of my best friends in the world is absolutely in love with a married man. They have been together a little over 6 months and he is activevly seeking out a divorce. She gets frustrated because he is taking so long, but he says he doesnt want to completely destroy his wife, is trying to give her some time to stand on her own two feet. And he says he wants to be financially stable when he leaves and not be completly broke. My friend, maybe beeing too understanding is just sitting on the side lines waiting for him. They talk everyday on his drive to and from work. That is about the extent of the relationship. She is a wreck, but is trying to act strong for him. He has not had sex with his wife in 8 months, and that is apparently true. And the lawyer was called last week to get papers processed. She is driving me crazy asking me what to do. I have no idea, I cant even imagine. It honestly seems to me that they are truely in love and him and his wife have been close to divorce 3 times previously to this. What should I tell her? Is she going to be a fool or could she end up with the man she truely loves?
She is gonna get herself into a whole slew of trouble if she gets involved in any way.
A bad marriage, no sex, my wife doesn't understand me...are all lines and are ONLY the cheating H point of view. If your friend really wants to know what is going on the wife is the one that will tell the truth.
My H told me and his whore he didn't love me, our marriage was over, he was unhappy and wasn't getting sex. Well the truth,
1. We were both unhappy, he was a selfish pig, a work-a-holic that spent most of his money on his toys while I struggled to take care of 99% of EVERYthing it took to run our home and struggled to pay the bills.
2. My H NEVER communicated with me. He never in 23 years told me he was unhappy. He never offered to do anything to fix or work on our marriage. He created how terrible our marriage was in his head after talking with his whore about how bad her marriage was. He had totally forgotten all the good-times and his marriage vows. He was giving him self permission to have the affair.
3. He wanted sex on demand with-out offering anything outside of the bedroom. No help with the kids, house..nothing. After I worked, spent hours doing housework, laundry, kids homework, he would scratch his butt and say "honey let's go to bed". Sorry bud not going to happen. BUT we were still having sex at least 4 times a week during his affair. He also told his whore we were not having sex. She told him she had moved into the spare bedroom and not sleeping with her husband.
Satistics say affair relationships don't usually work out. Ask your friend what she thinks true love is? Or is she just in lust with him. I would bet his feeling are just lust. My H also said he "thought he loved her". What could you love? It's a fantacy relationship. The world stops when they are together. Real relationships don't happen like that.
Your not going to find much simpathy here for your friend. Most of us have been distroyed by women like her. Ask her if she can look at herself in the mirrior each morning knowing she helpped distroy another women's life. Aks her what she will do when this man cheats on her??
does he still live with his wife?
The only one that would win out of this situation is the wife.She doesn't need a lying cheat like him.
It just gets people hurt, including the cheating partner and the mistress. I really think for your friends sake, that she should back off from the relationship until he's single and available. This is a very unstable and risky relationship for your friend to be devoting the rest of her life to.
WOMEN ARE USUALLY MORE EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED.
MORE THAN LIKELY THIS GUY HAS NO INTENTION OF EVER LEAVING HIS WIFE....HE WANTS TO HAVE HIS CAKE AND EAT IT TOO....AND TRUST ME THERE IS NOTHING MAGICAL ABOUT THIS GUY-HE IS NO CATCH- IF HE EVER DID LEAVE HIS WIFE HIS FINANCES WILL BE CUT IN HALF OR MORE, HE WILL HAVE AN EX WIFE AND KIDS HANGING AROUND...THE KIDS AND MOST OF THE FAMILY WILL ALWAYS HATE YOUR FRIEND FOR BREAKING UP THE FAMILY-REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE SAYS YOUR FRIEND WILL ALWAYS BE VIEWED AS A HOMEWRECKER. AND IN THE END THIS 'CATCH' WILL END UP BEING ANOTHER SHLUB THAT SITS ON THE COUCH IN HIS BOXERS, WITH A REMOTE IN ONE HAND AND A BEER IN THE OTHER IGNORING YOUR FRIEND AND HER BABIES WHILE HE LOOKS ELSEWHERE FOR EXCITEMENT WITH ANOTHER WOMAN WHO DOESN'T REMIND HIM TO CUT THE GRASS OR TAKE OUT THE GARBAGE ETC.....
STATISTICALLY THAT IS A FACT VERY VERY FEW OF THESE AFFAIRS END UP AS A MARRIAGE AND OUT OF THOSE MOST DIVORCE BECAUSE THE TWO PEOPLE ONLY LOVE THE FANTASY OF EACH OTHER NOT THE REALITY. aND THE MARRIED PARTNER OFTEN SAYS THEY MISS THEIR SPOUSE AND DIDN'T REALIZE HOW GOOD THEY HAD IT UNTIL THEY GOT INVOLVED IN A 'REALITY BASED' RELATIONSHIP WITH THE AFFAIR PARTNER... SO ...GOOD LUCK TO YOUR FRIEND....
PS... I WONDER IF THE PREVIOUS ALMOST DIVORCES WERE OVER OTHER AFFAIRS? MORE THAN LIKELY YOUR FRIEND IS NOT SO SPECIAL AFTER ALL..HE'S PROBABLY DONE THIS BEFORE......
You go! End of story!
-Jax