Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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davetrish19 02/14/2018

I found out November 29,2017 my husband of 18 years had a 6 week affair with a co-worker. The other person sent me their correspondence they shared Emails with him calling her “ babe” among other things. The emails were vague. This I’m thankful for. We did have a rough 6 months. I knew we were in trouble. We have had quite a few situations in our marriage that were and are very stressful. This other woman has made me out to be the bad person. I was summoned to our local police station and talked to about sending her my “ closure letter” when I got there the police officer was more concerned for my safety then anything. “ she’s not stable” please keep your distance. She purchased my husband many gifts. A phone, wallet.. coats.. she also bribed him with trucks and trips to leave me. I’m seriously dumbfounded. My husband ended this situation with her, 29 days later her emails and messages to me started. “ I love him” “ he’s only there for your children” I know they had sex 5 times. It was after 9 pm and always a Friday night. They never went on dates, he never bought her anything and he never stayed over night. He calls her a “ booty call” she knew she was this but apparently fell in love with a married dad of 4. She knew he was married. She knew we had children. Please don’t think I only blame her. He’s the one who risked losing his world. She’s single.. no children and had zero disregard for mine. I’m a kind loving wife and mother of 4 children. I struggle daily wondering how two people could have affected a family unit so incredibly. My husband is sorry and begging me to work it out. I however am so nervous and hesitant to try. I do love him. He has wonderful qualities. Do good people make bad mistakes? I still cry everyday. Am I normal to feel like I’m literally dying? I’m so depressed I can barely function. I am in therapy. I have been since day 4. My husband is being treated for Bipolar Disorder 1. He sees the psychiatrist the 22nd of February. This is so completely out of character for him. He’s shy and quiet. Never has been inappropriate towards women or myself. I’m just so sad and broken. I want to feel better. I’m trying so hard. I feel like I am unable. I am consumed with him and her being intimate. It makes me so incredibly sick. I wish and hope the unwanted visuals end...soon.

Foolish1 02/15/2018

When this happens it affects the entire family. The thought that the children are not put at risk when a cheater does what they do is false. Broken homes hurt children. Anybody that doesn't realize that is a moron and anybody that doesn't think an affair can lead to a broken home a super moron. If you want to give him a chance then you can do just that. Watch for his actions each and everyday. It's OK to keep him at a distance. It's also OK to let loose on him when your anger reaches that point of no return. He needs to hear what he did to you. How he made you feel and what he did to his kids. He needs to hear what a POS he is for doing what he did. The truth sucks when you're a D-Bag. Don't hold back when you tell him how much of one he really is. Let him shed some tears for a change. Find out what affects him the most in all of this and don't let him forget it. Mention it as many times as you can squeeze it into a sentence. Take time. Don't rush anything. Take care of yourself and your children. Screw him. Let him learn to crawl for a while. Let him do a little begging for forgiveness. Good luck to you. Stay strong.

davetrish19 02/15/2018

I love the fact that it’s ok to snap because I DO. I say things to him I never imagined leaving my mouth. Day 1 I was even physical. I haven’t hit or hurt anyone in my life. I couldn’t control myself. Ty for the advice. I’m truly taking it ALL in.

Foolish1 02/16/2018

I'm proud of you Trish. This is one of those times in life when expressing anger will help you like nothing else will. It's a cleansing of sort. You will be OK for a day or two, then you will fill with rage again. Let it out whenever it comes. Do your absolute best though to not let the kids hear it or see it. You and your children are the most important thing here. He made his choice as to what he values in life and you and your children were not it. He was the cause of all the problems in your life right now. Let him fix what he broke. Take care of yourself and your kids. That's your only responsibility now.

forwardmotion 02/20/2018

Physical violence is a bad idea for guys or girls and while you want to express your hurt and anger towards him you still want to maintain your dignity.

While it is always 100% the fault of the CS it is true that you do need a cheating partner to commit adultery and many of whom are married as well.

It's sad how women will sleep with married men and steal away husbands just as it is horrible of a man to take another's wife.

It just shows how the general population of the world in every society is broken and not above such destructive and selfish decisions/lifestyles.

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