I found out November 29,2017 my husband of 18 years had a 6 week affair with a co-worker. The other person sent me their correspondence they shared Emails with him calling her “ babe” among other things. The emails were vague. This I’m thankful for. We did have a rough 6 months. I knew we were in trouble. We have had quite a few situations in our marriage that were and are very stressful. This other woman has made me out to be the bad person. I was summoned to our local police station and talked to about sending her my “ closure letter” when I got there the police officer was more concerned for my safety then anything. “ she’s not stable” please keep your distance. She purchased my husband many gifts. A phone, wallet.. coats.. she also bribed him with trucks and trips to leave me. I’m seriously dumbfounded. My husband ended this situation with her, 29 days later her emails and messages to me started. “ I love him” “ he’s only there for your children” I know they had sex 5 times. It was after 9 pm and always a Friday night. They never went on dates, he never bought her anything and he never stayed over night. He calls her a “ booty call” she knew she was this but apparently fell in love with a married dad of 4. She knew he was married. She knew we had children. Please don’t think I only blame her. He’s the one who risked losing his world. She’s single.. no children and had zero disregard for mine. I’m a kind loving wife and mother of 4 children. I struggle daily wondering how two people could have affected a family unit so incredibly. My husband is sorry and begging me to work it out. I however am so nervous and hesitant to try. I do love him. He has wonderful qualities. Do good people make bad mistakes? I still cry everyday. Am I normal to feel like I’m literally dying? I’m so depressed I can barely function. I am in therapy. I have been since day 4. My husband is being treated for Bipolar Disorder 1. He sees the psychiatrist the 22nd of February. This is so completely out of character for him. He’s shy and quiet. Never has been inappropriate towards women or myself. I’m just so sad and broken. I want to feel better. I’m trying so hard. I feel like I am unable. I am consumed with him and her being intimate. It makes me so incredibly sick. I wish and hope the unwanted visuals end...soon.
its been over a year and so much has changed. Going through a divorce it’s almost finalized. Found a wonderful man who I love and my mom has passed away and fighting my narc step father for money that my mother has left me and being assaulted by him at the hospice while my mom was dying. It’s been hard...really hard. Not the divorce.. I’ve accepted that but losing my mom.
Hey everyone! I'm new here, and I'm here because of a past that is now haunting me. I've recently been in a relationship that means the world to me. In the past I would lie and make up things for no reason at all sometimes. Some of these things are popping up. I can say that i've been making an active part in trying to be honest in the past year that I've been with this individual, but...