Trust your instincts. Don't push them aside.
Check's and balances! His behavior sounds suspicious to me. If he has nothing to hide, he would be an open book. It is so exhausting mentally to have to be put through this on a continuing bases. I'm tired of playing detective. This isn't what I signed up for!
Prayers to you!

I have to agree with dody. Trust your instincts. Stay stong.

I agree. You are questioning his behavior for a reason. If your gut is telling you something is fishy, then it probably is.
Take care, you are in my prayers.

My counsellor said that 99% of the time when people are suspicious it is because they should be. I agree with the others something is up. You should show up at his workplace with a coffee and danish one day at 4am, see if he is really there. Say you are trying to be romantic. He could even be going to see someone else, not just on the phone.

You're "starting again" Oh tell him to blow it out his ass.

He's up to no good. And even IF he wasn't up to no good, and he wasn't cheating, and he never has and you trusted him full heartedly, here is a newsflash for him. You are his wife. You have an issue with him going to work early. He should try to work something out with you/talk to you/ etc. Not tell you that you are "starting again". Did I mention I hate men? Most of them.....

AND, my next obvious question is:
Does his paycheck show these hours on it?

MDens has such a great idea! You can do it with the simple intention to surprise your hubby in a romantic way... BUT, if he IS doing something wrong (which I agree is likely), he will get busted and he cannot blame YOU for it in any way. :)

follow him.

Im a teacher, and I know our custodians come in early a lot also. If you think he is on computer at school, any kind of chat site is blocked and the only email he can go through is his school account. Cant get on yahoo or hotmail or anything. Im not trying to say he isnt doing anything, because if your instinct say he is, he probably is. Tell him if he were open and honest and volunteered to show his phone log and emails you would not have any reason to be suspiscious. If he has nothing to hide, he should not really mind you checking. If you dont find anything, you can say its just afterschock from the before and he needs to understand it will take time to build the trust back. Good luck!

follow him even if you have to rent a car and park it somewhere..but do it more than once.I had started to several times and if I had...I would have found out 6 months sooner.
also...if you do this and find nothing...i would get a plan that both of you can be on like verizon that is only 10.00 for another line and saves money so you can see his records and if he does not give you the password...he is hiding something. No one gets up that early and lose sleep to go to work..that is a huge red flag.or get one of those recording devices that you put under the seat of their car that records conversation.but you need to hire a detective or become one. I put it off because deep down i was in denial and really was afraid of what I might find and him lie out of it but Looking back it was way worse than even I could imagine and I was a idiot for letting him provoke my questions into guilt of not trusting him.
a open book has nothing to hide,a book that does alot of odd things and has odd remarks,is your conscious telling you something is not just odd...it is way off...you need to find where....
most cheaters are pathological liars and manipulators and never stop lieing in my book bec it is a way of life to live in their own world that they control and they control the people in it.
I feel for you bec there not any easy answers and you will have to get control of yourself to find them but you deserve to tell yourself to be your own person and take your life back and if he is doing nothing at all.......you will have peace of mind to start believing him but if you find out something....well.....then you know where your relationship stands...a safe haven for
the inbetween times...and then youwill have to decide how to handle that and what you want to do or say even if is nothing.

thank you all for your advise. I have called him at different times and he will talk to me. so I do know he is not with someone. My problem is in thinking that he is up to his old ways with the computer and he tells me the same thing as notachance says. I want to believe that, so I hope it is the same in all schools. Because him being on the computer led to him talking on the phone. I have access to the our verizon plan now so if he is talking still, he would have had to buy a phone and do the calling cards. I know instincts says a lot so I will keep my eyes open. At least now he does let me talk to him and he told him he understands why I am the way I am, but I still don't think he fully gets it. And I don't know if someone can change that much. He is starting I can tell to not want to see his therapist and that was a condition. Anyway thanks again

quacks like a duck walks like a duck looks like a duck must be duck. Your husband is up to something. Check it out.

My exfiance would always answer when I called him even when he was with the OW. This was because the OW knew about me. If he answers that doesn't mean he isn't up to something.

I looked at my exfiances MSN chats hoping to NOT find anything. I wanted to prove to myself that I could and should trust him. Like in reply #9. Unfortunately I found a quacking duckie.

Even if (and that's a big if) nothing's going on. You need to talk to each other. There's a big communication gap in the marriage and that tends to lead down a well known path. A couple of well known paths: 1. Alienation between the two of you, or 2. Him wandering or running down the road to an E.A. or a P.A. and justifying it by saying he was lonley ... You need to re-establish contact. If he's resistant -- the fault for being lonely is all his own. Unfortunately, this places the burden of getting the conversation going on you (not fair). Look closely at your marriage -- can you be happy together, can you shake it up and wake him up? And most importantly what do YOU want and need?

do you have a computer at home? Get a keylogger if you do- and it will record every keystroke he makes. Just get the hardware kind that you plug into the back- simple.

I know my gut tells me something is wrong. It might not even matter anymore. I really thought he got another phone because every time I walked in the bedroom it looked like he was hiding something. I did ask him last week if he did and of cause he said no. I did not believe him so yes I will admit I would hug him to see if there was a phone in his pocket. Well last night his back was to me when I went into the bedroom and it looked like he flipped something closed and put it in his pocket so I asked to see what he put in his pocket well to say he got defensive is an understatement. He said I was playing games and he knew what I was up to when I hugged him and I could have just asked him. He is sick of me being paranoid, on he went. So he has decided he can't take it anymore, but wont leave. I really don't think I am crazy as he wants me to believe his behavior is to odd. Well I am of cause upset now. You want to know the funny thing as I am writing this he just called to make sure I knew that he did not make the coffee this morning because he was running late for work and that he didn't want me to think he didn't, what I guess to be mean. I'm sure that he is not over it who know what is going on in his head.