Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
True Story - So my STBXW mother was cheated on by her father for 3 years before anyone finding out.
When everyone did the father would then openly cheat and spend the weekends with the mistress - yes - WTF - give my STBXW mother some money for the week for the mother and the 4 girls - then go off to his other home in the country and be with this OW for the weekend. Come back - do it again next weekend.
My STBXW kicked her father out of the house and forced him to be with this OW. OW then left him 3 years later and he came crawling back and the mother took him back.
Ok - not that all of that isn't beyond messed up but for the 3 years father was with OW the mother cried everyday and could not function "at all" - could not freakin move - she cried so much her eye shut - permanently - until she had it operated on.
When my STBX cheated on me - learned behaviour? - I told her I will not wait around like her mother did for her father.
When everyone did the father would then openly cheat and spend the weekends with the mistress - yes - WTF - give my STBXW mother some money for the week for the mother and the 4 girls - then go off to his other home in the country and be with this OW for the weekend. Come back - do it again next weekend.
My STBXW kicked her father out of the house and forced him to be with this OW. OW then left him 3 years later and he came crawling back and the mother took him back.
Ok - not that all of that isn't beyond messed up but for the 3 years father was with OW the mother cried everyday and could not function "at all" - could not freakin move - she cried so much her eye shut - permanently - until she had it operated on.
When my STBX cheated on me - learned behaviour? - I told her I will not wait around like her mother did for her father.
in my situation, he was seeing 2 people, me and another girl, keeping it from both of us, living a lie. also, he'd get on questionable websites, and in my read on the situation, he would "feel" insecure or scared, like if I had to travel for work, and then he would resort to this kind of behavior, likely to feel better about himself.
The psychology of a person who does this kind of behavior is complicated at best, but from what I am gathering in my situation it runs very deep and probably attached to some abandonment issues from early childhood.
Yes - supposedly this is what is said about this:
Some of these affair relationships are the result of unfinished business from adolescence. Perhaps he/she was responsible for family or beset by some trauma or internally or externally imposed injunctions that precluded him from dating, socializing with the opposite sex, and falling in and out of love a number of times, which is so important and vital for adolescent development.
from the 7 different affairs information.
You can be called a "survivor" - yea like other disease why can't we have a color band or t - shirt or awarness walk - like this should have cause we are all survivors of this crap.
one thing I have learned is that, at least for me, i have to trust my feelings or intuition, because it hasnt been wrong. if I ignore the signals I end up regretting it big time.