Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
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Tomorrow I will be going in and officially filing for divorce. I'm not sure how I am feeling at this moment. I want to go on with my life , but I also feel that by filing for it, I failed, I failed at being happy.
I know it may sound dumb but sometimes I feel guilt for filing, because that would be ME "officially" giving up on us. I don't know why he hasn't filed since he was so desperate to gettting out of this relationship.
I am just hurt, I feel decieved, I feel destroyed, I had all these plans and all these dreams made with this person and now I have to start all over again.
I know that he isn't good for me, but deep down I thought that one day he would wake up and realize the mistake he has made and apologized.
All he has contacted me is over petty things - there is no sign that he is sorry or regrets anything that he has done.
I start to think about all that he has done and I cannot believe I have allowed him to put me down this way. He would get angry at me because I wanted to talk to him about us and fix things.
Please tell me what do you guys think? Is it time for me to file?
Tomorrow I will be going in and officially filing for divorce. I'm not sure how I am feeling at this moment. I want to go on with my life , but I also feel that by filing for it, I failed, I failed at being happy.
I know it may sound dumb but sometimes I feel guilt for filing, because that would be ME "officially" giving up on us. I don't know why he hasn't filed since he was so desperate to gettting out of this relationship.
I am just hurt, I feel decieved, I feel destroyed, I had all these plans and all these dreams made with this person and now I have to start all over again.
I know that he isn't good for me, but deep down I thought that one day he would wake up and realize the mistake he has made and apologized.
All he has contacted me is over petty things - there is no sign that he is sorry or regrets anything that he has done.
I start to think about all that he has done and I cannot believe I have allowed him to put me down this way. He would get angry at me because I wanted to talk to him about us and fix things.
Please tell me what do you guys think? Is it time for me to file?
But, yes, the loss of dreams is a big hit. You will grieve that loss, no matter whether you divorce or not. Sometimes, giving those dreams a chance o become reality means cutting your losses now. But like itisjustme said, only you can decide when to cut those losses.
But it is a big decision. It feels like diving off a diving board, Once you've launched yourself off, it feels final. Of course, even after divorce you could reconcile if he changed his ways. But don't expect it.
I generally always tell people here to get counseling if you sill love them. Work on the marriage. Focus on each other. Etc. Because that's what I want for my marriage. But in your case...RUN.
This guy is poison - don't let him poison you any longer.
Part of the marriage commitment is to love, honor and cherish (assuming those were your vows). Those are the terms of the contract. In any contract, if the terms are not met, it becomes null and void.
That seems to be the case in your marriage, so divorce seems like logical next step. It's emotion that has you questioning. Dealing with those emotions is part of the grief process. It's hard but you will get through. Try to think of it as making room in your life for something better.