Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I am reading a lot about people and their hidden phone situations finding the secret phone. Which brought back memories for me.
My STBX had a secret phone first lied about it then said because I was checking on her she wanted her privacy so she got a secret phone. WTF.
I dont know if this was the correct move but this is what I did - since the main phone bill was in my name I disconnected her main cell phone number. Why you need 2 cell phones? Was my logic.
So it forced this knucklehead to use the secret phone now as her main phone. Awesome.
She had to explain to everyone why now she had a new number cause she had a secret phone and her H stopped the other phone number so now we have secret phone as non secret phone main phone and now everyone knows the number. With technology you have more communication capabilities but this technology allows crazy to be even more crazy. Before you had a home phone if you were lucky.
Ahole.
My STBX had a secret phone first lied about it then said because I was checking on her she wanted her privacy so she got a secret phone. WTF.
I dont know if this was the correct move but this is what I did - since the main phone bill was in my name I disconnected her main cell phone number. Why you need 2 cell phones? Was my logic.
So it forced this knucklehead to use the secret phone now as her main phone. Awesome.
She had to explain to everyone why now she had a new number cause she had a secret phone and her H stopped the other phone number so now we have secret phone as non secret phone main phone and now everyone knows the number. With technology you have more communication capabilities but this technology allows crazy to be even more crazy. Before you had a home phone if you were lucky.
Ahole.
I can only theorize that this has to do with some aspect of control - like whats the mentality there at the time she is sending this crap.
She may be able to foresee this is going to cause problems in the future of her but she wouldnt care if she wants to get back at you for something or she wants to control over you.
Like well remember when you didnt do this and that for me give me attention or enough of it well remember I went completely freakin crazy and did xyz. Well in her crazy mind its all worth the stupid effort at the time and even after the fact that others would see it well dont upset me cause I might go and do that crazy again. Control.
Nor would I want to be in a realtionship I would have to check up on anyone actually cause that's not a realtionship.
But we have 2 sons and she started acting crazy - so I grew suspicious. Its all very sick now that I look back on it.
It's extremely sick and the mind of someone who goes into that place of having a secret phone is just a sick person - especially when your fing married. Just sick.
you create the role for them by taking on your role first
just as though you take on the role of rescuer in a different relationship, you create the role for your partner to be a victim who needs rescuing
the reverse is also true, a jealous, insecure, suspicious, invasive, accusatory and controlling spouse will drive their partner away and give them the role of wanting a partner who will give instead of take
we dont often think about how we create roles for our partners, most often we only think about how they create roles for us
Anybody who enters into crazytown is just that. Period.
Even after she closed her facebook account, I know she is using her sisters at work. Can't prove it, but I know she is still looking him up.
Just saying.