Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have a new problem in my head that I would really like to share. I pray somebody can offer some insight.
My problems are not new because I married a serial cheater, but new information along with pictures have been revealed. These new images in my head have started chaos in my head. I think since the relationship between them is purely sexual in my mind I pictured this person to be some sort of Fabio. I had visions of chizelled ab muscles and figured he must be hung like a horse. I was suprised that this fellow was less fit, less"groomed" and so "small". What the HELL?? My self esteem was smashed before, but now it's damn near destroyed. I must be really really bad or something. This guy must have some damn magic moves or tons of tricks up the sleeve. I'll never understand why she threw our family away for these other guys, but I would pay large sums of money to figure out what type of sexual magic this guy can cast.
My problems are not new because I married a serial cheater, but new information along with pictures have been revealed. These new images in my head have started chaos in my head. I think since the relationship between them is purely sexual in my mind I pictured this person to be some sort of Fabio. I had visions of chizelled ab muscles and figured he must be hung like a horse. I was suprised that this fellow was less fit, less"groomed" and so "small". What the HELL?? My self esteem was smashed before, but now it's damn near destroyed. I must be really really bad or something. This guy must have some damn magic moves or tons of tricks up the sleeve. I'll never understand why she threw our family away for these other guys, but I would pay large sums of money to figure out what type of sexual magic this guy can cast.
In the end, it rarely has anything to do with the betrayed spouse compared to the other person. There is no comparison. It's not even apples to oranges. Usually, it's just an opportunity that was taken and it had nothing to do with shopping for someone better/stronger/taller/braver/smarter/more beautiful/more endowed/nicer/richer...
Hoodmin - it's not about YOU and what you were lacking. It's about the person who betrayed you and the needs that were being fulfilled. She found someone who was willing and went for it. It was a choice she made to fill something her needs/desires/whatever that she CHOSE to meet through someone else rather than asking from you.
That was her failing, not yours.